For some months now, I have known that my mum needs fulltime care, she is at risk in all areas, but until recently I did not want to face the fact. Anyway, it has become increasingly difficult for me, as her sole carer, to look after her. (She lives alone but only about 5 minutes away from me). I started to look at Nursing Homes and found one that I really liked and where I thought she would be "happy" although she has insisted there is nothing wrong with her and she would never go into a home. Social Services have finally become convinced that she does need 24 hour care but wanted me to tell my mum and also take her to visit the home that I was interested in. So,today, at the request of SW, I took my mum to visit the NH that I like, on the pretense of visiting someone I knew who worked there. She was quite happy to go and chatted away with the staff and patients, openly flirting with some of the men!!! One of the senior members of staff did an assessment while we were there and then found out that there was one vacancy with no waiting list. She told me to contact SW asap and say that I definitely wanted this place.
When I got home I immediately phoned the SW who told me that there was no place available at that particular NH and unless I wanted to wait for one to become available, which could be a very long time, I should choose another which did have vacancies.
I am so upset. I have got this far, have found a lovely, friendly home and now don't know whether there is a place for her or not. My partner seems to think, cynically(!) that it is to do with funding and that if we were paying privately, we would be able to have the bed. Does anyone know why NH and SW have different information.
Sharon x
When I got home I immediately phoned the SW who told me that there was no place available at that particular NH and unless I wanted to wait for one to become available, which could be a very long time, I should choose another which did have vacancies.
I am so upset. I have got this far, have found a lovely, friendly home and now don't know whether there is a place for her or not. My partner seems to think, cynically(!) that it is to do with funding and that if we were paying privately, we would be able to have the bed. Does anyone know why NH and SW have different information.
Sharon x