Yes me again. I am in such a muddle and 50 million questions every day.
My Mum 72 with mid/moderate stage of AD told my sister when she called, that she can't take much more of Dad. He shouts at her and calls her names. This part is true.
He always has to a degree, but is getting worse with age.
But she's also scared he might hit her. This part I'm unsure of.
Last year after he had a stint in hospital for an acute bladder infection, when discharged Dad really lost his rag with Mum over something minor and sort of scuffed her about the ear.
For this he got an almighty telling off from me and i have spoken to our family GP about him.
I also don't know how much Mum might be exaggerating just a little, as she makes out that this is a daily occurence. I see Mum every day and know by her body language and manner if something is up.
Sometimes she will say " I'm not talking to your dad he called me a name"
I might add that this week Mum has been on anti B's for a suspected bladder infection.
Enough to show on a dipstick test, but caught so early that the actual urine test came back fine. Mum has a high white cell blood count due to Leukemia, so always shows a higher than normal count in her urine.
Dad cannot handle Mums loss of memory, repeating herself and although I am Mums main carer he is with her otherwise 24/7.
They do both go to their own club each 2x a week.... and I don't think organising extra respite is the answer here
My parents live in their own house on the back of our property.
Neither my sister or I have room for Mum in our own homes. Being out of her home and surroundings adds to her confusion.
Mum has a medical alarm if required, and I'm sure if at worst she would come over and see me if any major issues with Dad.
We have not long had a definitive diagnosis of AD for Mum, and I am meant to call the AD Society to arrange a home visit.
They will talk to Mum and Dad, and us as a family.
Personally I don't think anything said to Dad would make a jot of difference.
It seems sad that Mum who in all other respects copes with washing, dressing, no incontinence, still does housework... no cooking though would be forced into Residential care because of Dads temper and inability to cope
what to do?
My Mum 72 with mid/moderate stage of AD told my sister when she called, that she can't take much more of Dad. He shouts at her and calls her names. This part is true.
He always has to a degree, but is getting worse with age.
But she's also scared he might hit her. This part I'm unsure of.
Last year after he had a stint in hospital for an acute bladder infection, when discharged Dad really lost his rag with Mum over something minor and sort of scuffed her about the ear.
For this he got an almighty telling off from me and i have spoken to our family GP about him.
I also don't know how much Mum might be exaggerating just a little, as she makes out that this is a daily occurence. I see Mum every day and know by her body language and manner if something is up.
Sometimes she will say " I'm not talking to your dad he called me a name"
I might add that this week Mum has been on anti B's for a suspected bladder infection.
Enough to show on a dipstick test, but caught so early that the actual urine test came back fine. Mum has a high white cell blood count due to Leukemia, so always shows a higher than normal count in her urine.
Dad cannot handle Mums loss of memory, repeating herself and although I am Mums main carer he is with her otherwise 24/7.
They do both go to their own club each 2x a week.... and I don't think organising extra respite is the answer here
My parents live in their own house on the back of our property.
Neither my sister or I have room for Mum in our own homes. Being out of her home and surroundings adds to her confusion.
Mum has a medical alarm if required, and I'm sure if at worst she would come over and see me if any major issues with Dad.
We have not long had a definitive diagnosis of AD for Mum, and I am meant to call the AD Society to arrange a home visit.
They will talk to Mum and Dad, and us as a family.
Personally I don't think anything said to Dad would make a jot of difference.
It seems sad that Mum who in all other respects copes with washing, dressing, no incontinence, still does housework... no cooking though would be forced into Residential care because of Dads temper and inability to cope
what to do?