So dad is being admitted to a Care Home On Monday or Tuesday should the Covid Test results not be back in time for Monday. I had to go to the CH this afternoon to pick up test that sister is going to do on dad tomorrow morning so lets hope she manages to get it done. I have to take the test back to the CH no later than 12pm. Dad is not going into either of the CH's that were mentioned to us a month or so ago as they won't take him due to his behaviour which is a bit disappointing but at least the one he is going to have accepted and hopefully do know what challenges dad may present. Sister was also called and give her credit she did ring me as well. Dads medication will be looked into for the two weeks he is initially expected to be there for so we won't know yet if this is a permanent move as lady that called says they will assess after then if dad can return to his home. I will have the unenviable job of taking dad there but sister has said she will discuss with dad about him having to go somewhere else ' for a while'. I have been in my loft looking for some luggage/holders for dads clothes etc and had a surprising selection which I will leave at dads tomorrow as sister says she will pack dads stuff. I did ask lady on reception when picking up covid test for dad what arrangements they will have for visits and she said after December 2nd they will have visits in a room at the CH so that sounds pretty good at least if dad has to stay there we won't be stood in the cold. Currently due to latest restrictions no visits are allowed. I think sister is still hoping that dad may be able to go to the CH nearer to us but I think if dad settles there and its decided he can't go home I can't see that they would change his CH. We will need to keep a eye on his home maybe leave some lights on as dad always has lights on in hall upstairs overnight I also have one of those gadgets that looks like a TV on so might set that up too. I only renewed dads insurance last month but said to sister maybe we should remove anything that is of personnel value 'just incase' but she didn't make any comment so not sure what to do.
I went to dads after collecting test and just popped away in drawer, dad was in lounge eyes closed and the two cakes the lunch carer left still on a plate as dad didn't want a meal again. I spoke to dad a few times but he didn't answer but I suspect he wasn't really sleeping. I left a note for carer but as it happens I saw her arrive just as I got into my car so went over to speak with her briefly before she went in. I explained how dad was and said I didn't think she would be able to do much as he was most likely pretending to sleep. I hadn't been home long when mobile rang the carer that just went in said dad told her to go away so she went in kitchen and she heard dad shouting 'Thank god Thank god'. Carer did attempt to try and empty dads catheter bag but she said he started getting aggressive/shouting at her so she said she called her office to tell them and left dad without being able to provide any care. I had read dads notes in book and dad had raised his hand and gone to hit the male carer that had gone in last night to help dad into Pajamas and into bed but did manage as he said he told dad not to raise his hand to him again. Two of dads bedtime pills were found in bedroom by sister same pill so obviously separate nights so dad must not have swallowed them when given by night carers. I sat staring at dad today from my chair just slumped in his couch no TV on, nothing from him at all no response to me and feel so sad and worse still because he has no idea what change is coming Monday ?
I went to dads after collecting test and just popped away in drawer, dad was in lounge eyes closed and the two cakes the lunch carer left still on a plate as dad didn't want a meal again. I spoke to dad a few times but he didn't answer but I suspect he wasn't really sleeping. I left a note for carer but as it happens I saw her arrive just as I got into my car so went over to speak with her briefly before she went in. I explained how dad was and said I didn't think she would be able to do much as he was most likely pretending to sleep. I hadn't been home long when mobile rang the carer that just went in said dad told her to go away so she went in kitchen and she heard dad shouting 'Thank god Thank god'. Carer did attempt to try and empty dads catheter bag but she said he started getting aggressive/shouting at her so she said she called her office to tell them and left dad without being able to provide any care. I had read dads notes in book and dad had raised his hand and gone to hit the male carer that had gone in last night to help dad into Pajamas and into bed but did manage as he said he told dad not to raise his hand to him again. Two of dads bedtime pills were found in bedroom by sister same pill so obviously separate nights so dad must not have swallowed them when given by night carers. I sat staring at dad today from my chair just slumped in his couch no TV on, nothing from him at all no response to me and feel so sad and worse still because he has no idea what change is coming Monday ?
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