Hello and welcome to TP.. I'm no expert but I do care for my dad he has the same condition as your mum I got social services involved and have a carer in once a day to help out I also have 8 weeks respite in place.. Would your mum and dad except help from the outside such as social services.. I'm sure the more knowledgeable members will be along soon to help out xx

 

It is great that the dementia support workers are already involved
They should be helping your parents to access attendance allowance and a carers assessment which would give your dad some support to take a break.If not post back and we can signpost you.

Perhaps your Dad needs to investigate some day care for your Mum, maybe 3 days a week - which would give him a break and time to recharge his batteries.

Also contact their local carers organisation - there is probably a support worker who can either visit or phone to give some support and advice about local services.

Sorry you are all having such a difficult time but you are right to get some help for your dad now - he really needs some support.

keep posting, thinking of you

 

Hello again respite care is usually arranged through social services when I got them involved they came out and assessed dad they can also arrange day care too.. Hope that you will be able to get some much needed help soon xx.. By the way I did not tell dad until the day that he was going into respite because I knew he would reject the idea but I told a love lie.. I told him that I had an health problem that needed sorting out.. It was not entirely false but dad excepted it then knowing that it was only going to be for a week I have my next one booked for early December xx

 

If you contact adult care duty desk and ask for a carers assessment they look at care from your dad's point of view - so he needs a break and therefore your mum needs some day care. you will need to direct this when they come to do the carers assessment - if you can it might be worth you being there to support your Dad.

you can sell it to your mum as dad needs to go for an appointment or that there is a lunch club where she can go for a couple of hours just to see some new faces or anything really that will get her out of the door to give your dad a break.

keep posting x

 

I'm in the exact same position as you

My dad has dementia and is doing the exact same as your mum. Me and my mum are very much struggling to cope now and are no further forward with social work yet! Good luck