I'm new - please bear with me. Not sure which Forum I should be posting on? My Mum has vascular dementia and Alzheimers, and my Dad is doing his brilliant best to care for her. He is truly amazing, but Mum's behaviour is getting more and more difficult to handle - I think from reading other posts she may be in the 'suspicious" stage. Dad is getting the blame for everything and whilst Mum can manage to be nice to anyone who visits, as soon as they go she'll return to 'normal'. Mum isn't able to do most things for herself now (laying a table, using the phone, TV etc). Recently she's started complaining of wanting to go home, or is convinced other people are living in the house with her. She's also threatening to walk out to 'go home'. Life is getting really difficult for Dad and I'm worried about him. Mum is on meds, and we've finally managed to get an auto pill dispenser as she's not regularly taken her meds for ages (she is an ex nurse and won't accept she needs any help). We're hoping the regular meds will help, but know it will take a while for them to take effect. We've been in touch with the local Dementia Advisors and they are visiting for an hour every few weeks. I'm planning to contact the local Alzheimers Society people to see if there is anyone else who can come and support Dad and Mum too. I live over 2 hours away and sisters are overseas. We're all doing what we can but it is horrible watching things deteriorate at home and not being able to do much. Any suggestions what else we can do? Many thanks Posted this in 'Welcome and how to use TP' Forum too.