Hello everyone,
Although I originally registered on the site quite a while ago it's taken a while for me to take the plunge and post my situation on here to get some advice......
I am 33 and the only son of my Dad who is 67 and suffering from alzheimers. There is a lot of background to the strory but I will give you a brief outline to how and why we have got to the position we are in!!!
Over a decade ago my father cheated on my mother and I threw him out of the family home and did not speak to him for a number of years. To this day he stayed with the woman with whom he had an affair with. Whilst we were not speaking he moved in with this woman whilst I moved 225 miles away! We got back on speaking terms shortly after I moved but the relationship has never been the same as before......
Two years or so ago he admitted to me that he had been diagnosed with Alzheimers and that he was taking Arracet to try and delay onset of the disease. Our relationship has never recovered from the affair but I have definately noticed our discussions becoming very repeated and basic, i.e always talking about the weather, my job etc and it never gets anywhere, we chat every 1-2 weeks on the phone and 3-4 times a year in person.
Last week I was contacted by his partner and advised that she could not cope anymore and was calling in social services, she advised me that she thought I deservec to know and I was the next of kin....
My wife answered another phone call this evening and it was his partner again, she passed on some details of a person within their local social services whom I was supposed to ring to discuss possible options for my dad......
Following a recent visit to see my dad I did not feel things were that bad with him and I am confused as to what the social services can / will do in this situation....
Lastly this may sound callous but in light of what my dad has done in the past I have thoughts that it would be better if I stayed out of this and his partner of the last 12 years make the decisions with this matter .... I know he is my Dad but he has caused a lot of hurt in the family and I feel that I have made peace with him in the last 5 years and I am happy to carry on seeing him / talking to him as we have been doing and not getting any more involved ....
Can anyone enlighten me regarding the legal aspects and the social services side of things .....
Thankyou for listening
Although I originally registered on the site quite a while ago it's taken a while for me to take the plunge and post my situation on here to get some advice......
I am 33 and the only son of my Dad who is 67 and suffering from alzheimers. There is a lot of background to the strory but I will give you a brief outline to how and why we have got to the position we are in!!!
Over a decade ago my father cheated on my mother and I threw him out of the family home and did not speak to him for a number of years. To this day he stayed with the woman with whom he had an affair with. Whilst we were not speaking he moved in with this woman whilst I moved 225 miles away! We got back on speaking terms shortly after I moved but the relationship has never been the same as before......
Two years or so ago he admitted to me that he had been diagnosed with Alzheimers and that he was taking Arracet to try and delay onset of the disease. Our relationship has never recovered from the affair but I have definately noticed our discussions becoming very repeated and basic, i.e always talking about the weather, my job etc and it never gets anywhere, we chat every 1-2 weeks on the phone and 3-4 times a year in person.
Last week I was contacted by his partner and advised that she could not cope anymore and was calling in social services, she advised me that she thought I deservec to know and I was the next of kin....
My wife answered another phone call this evening and it was his partner again, she passed on some details of a person within their local social services whom I was supposed to ring to discuss possible options for my dad......
Following a recent visit to see my dad I did not feel things were that bad with him and I am confused as to what the social services can / will do in this situation....
Lastly this may sound callous but in light of what my dad has done in the past I have thoughts that it would be better if I stayed out of this and his partner of the last 12 years make the decisions with this matter .... I know he is my Dad but he has caused a lot of hurt in the family and I feel that I have made peace with him in the last 5 years and I am happy to carry on seeing him / talking to him as we have been doing and not getting any more involved ....
Can anyone enlighten me regarding the legal aspects and the social services side of things .....
Thankyou for listening