Hello!
My Mum, 74, was diagnosed with Alzheimer's in January of this year, although we'd noticed a definite decline in her memory since the previous summer. She was doing really well, living independently until early April, when we realised that she needed a little more help around the home, particularly with eating and taking her medication (which she hadn't really been taking regularly).
We agreed on and arranged for a local care company to come in once a day, for an hour a day. Just as this started, my Mum had a fall. She then went on to have a further two falls in 48 hours, each with long times either waiting for an ambulance, or waiting in A&E (the first one, she laid on the floor forgetting for around 5 hours that she had lifeline). She spent two nights in hospital after refusing any respite care. She was doing OK, we increased the care package to three x 1 hour visits a day and she was gradually getting stronger. We never did get to the bottom of her falling. She's been so lucky not to break anything.
Fast forward to last Monday evening, and she had another fall. Again, no real reason. I'd seen her the previous Friday and she'd seemed a little shaky on her feet, but was still managing. She did have a tummy upset all weekend. This fall resulted in another hospital visit. When she was ready to be released from hospital she agreed, with some persuasion, to respite care - as her strength was so bad and she had difficulty walking.
My brother and I both live locally, but he drives for a living and is frequently miles away. He also has his own family challenges. I have a family and work full time - so neither of us are able to provide full time care.
My Mum is currently still in respite care, and talks every day about staying there permanently, but in the same breath talks about going home. According to the manager, my Mum has been asking if she can stay on longer.
My brother and I have noticed a real decline in her over the last 4 weeks, including a stone weight loss. Whilst I would rather she was capable of independent living, I sleep much better at night knowing she is being looked after, and most importantly she is safe.
The big question now is, does she stay or do we move her back home. She's self funded at the moment. My biggest concern is that in her own home, she is alone for large parts of the day, and that's when the falls and the illness and incontinence happens. Since being in the care home, I've relaxed a little bit - I don't fear the calls to say she's fallen - but, I don't want to take away the little independence she had left...
Alzheimer's sucks :-(
Jx
My Mum, 74, was diagnosed with Alzheimer's in January of this year, although we'd noticed a definite decline in her memory since the previous summer. She was doing really well, living independently until early April, when we realised that she needed a little more help around the home, particularly with eating and taking her medication (which she hadn't really been taking regularly).
We agreed on and arranged for a local care company to come in once a day, for an hour a day. Just as this started, my Mum had a fall. She then went on to have a further two falls in 48 hours, each with long times either waiting for an ambulance, or waiting in A&E (the first one, she laid on the floor forgetting for around 5 hours that she had lifeline). She spent two nights in hospital after refusing any respite care. She was doing OK, we increased the care package to three x 1 hour visits a day and she was gradually getting stronger. We never did get to the bottom of her falling. She's been so lucky not to break anything.
Fast forward to last Monday evening, and she had another fall. Again, no real reason. I'd seen her the previous Friday and she'd seemed a little shaky on her feet, but was still managing. She did have a tummy upset all weekend. This fall resulted in another hospital visit. When she was ready to be released from hospital she agreed, with some persuasion, to respite care - as her strength was so bad and she had difficulty walking.
My brother and I both live locally, but he drives for a living and is frequently miles away. He also has his own family challenges. I have a family and work full time - so neither of us are able to provide full time care.
My Mum is currently still in respite care, and talks every day about staying there permanently, but in the same breath talks about going home. According to the manager, my Mum has been asking if she can stay on longer.
My brother and I have noticed a real decline in her over the last 4 weeks, including a stone weight loss. Whilst I would rather she was capable of independent living, I sleep much better at night knowing she is being looked after, and most importantly she is safe.
The big question now is, does she stay or do we move her back home. She's self funded at the moment. My biggest concern is that in her own home, she is alone for large parts of the day, and that's when the falls and the illness and incontinence happens. Since being in the care home, I've relaxed a little bit - I don't fear the calls to say she's fallen - but, I don't want to take away the little independence she had left...
Alzheimer's sucks :-(
Jx