Hello! My husband and I lived for 4 years with his grandmother who had dementia (we had to move out when she became wheel chair bound). She was so good to us and as her dementia progressed our roles changed and we cared for her as best we could. Frustration and anger were frequent emotions (our biggest rows were over which day it was and whether it was night or day!) but we had lots of laughs too. She was so sweet and loving (and often extremely funny). Now my grandmother has been diagnosed with Alzheimers although we have suspected it for a long time. My mother and her brother spend most weekends travelling to see her, clean the flat etc. This is particularly wearing for my Mum for whom it is a 6 hour round trip. My grandma is also doubly incontinent but refuses to have someone in to help her wash and clean. It is a miracle she lets a carer in in the morning to help her take her medicine. Does anyone have any ideas about some sort of support for my Mum who is stressed out with worry and racked with guilt because she never feels she is doing enough?