Hello all,
We're new to TP, but I have been browsing the AZ website for a while now.
My FiL was diagnosed with pre-senile dementia (age 60) just over 3 weeks ago. The consultant said his condition was 'advanced'.
He doesn't really communicate, as he doesn't sem to hear when people speak to him, he doesn't make much sense when he speaks either. He doesn't recognise day and night, and no longer really sleeps, he spends all day pacing or standing right by you.
He recognises his immediate family (as people he knows), but doesn't always know peoples names. He believes his wife is his mother, and I am 'that lady' as he can't remember my name anymore.
My Husband & I live 3 hours away from his M & D, so my SiL and MiL have been caring on a day to day basis.
FiL has been very aggitated and has been getting more and more aggressive/verbal over the past few months.
He had been going to day care for the past week (this is privately funded as SS refused to pay for anything other than full time residential care - I think because they feel he is a danger).
Anyway we hit our crisis point on Friday.
He raised his hands to his daughter and I think this became the final straw. My MiL & SiL (who moved back home) had been hiding the knives, torches, rolling pins basically anything he could use as a weapon for a few weeks now, as they felt physically threatened by him.
It's strange to talk about the aggression he has, as FiL is a slight man, who has never raised his hands to his children, I've never heard him raise his voice or swear. This illness has changed his character completely.
Anyway on Sat morning (after another sleepless night) my MiL, Husband (we have been going over on weekends to help care whenever we can) and SiL decided they could no longer cope and asked SS for help with residential care.
He was placed on Saturday (yesterday) afternoon. This was the same home he has been in for day care.
This morning however, they rang and asked MiL to come and collect him as they couldn't cope with him. She refused and said if they couldn't how on earth were his family meant to.
I think they wanted her to take him to a hospital (I guess to a mental health unit).
She said no, as he has been aggressive enough towards his family (telling his children he has disowned them for trying to kill him etc), before they put him in care, and I can't see anyway he would willingly go to a hospital with them.
She rang SS and they interviened. They are trying to replace him tomorrow, but I suspect they will have him sectioned, so the doctors can medicate him, I suppose they may put him in a secure mental health unit too.
I'm sorry for such a long post but would like to know if anyone can answer:-
What happens if he is sectioned/ what if no care homes will accept him in future?
What are the next stages of dementia and approx how long is a patient in each stage? (he seems to be going downhill rapidly)
Any other things we should do or say to SS?
Many thanks in advance.
Helen
We're new to TP, but I have been browsing the AZ website for a while now.
My FiL was diagnosed with pre-senile dementia (age 60) just over 3 weeks ago. The consultant said his condition was 'advanced'.
He doesn't really communicate, as he doesn't sem to hear when people speak to him, he doesn't make much sense when he speaks either. He doesn't recognise day and night, and no longer really sleeps, he spends all day pacing or standing right by you.
He recognises his immediate family (as people he knows), but doesn't always know peoples names. He believes his wife is his mother, and I am 'that lady' as he can't remember my name anymore.
My Husband & I live 3 hours away from his M & D, so my SiL and MiL have been caring on a day to day basis.
FiL has been very aggitated and has been getting more and more aggressive/verbal over the past few months.
He had been going to day care for the past week (this is privately funded as SS refused to pay for anything other than full time residential care - I think because they feel he is a danger).
Anyway we hit our crisis point on Friday.
He raised his hands to his daughter and I think this became the final straw. My MiL & SiL (who moved back home) had been hiding the knives, torches, rolling pins basically anything he could use as a weapon for a few weeks now, as they felt physically threatened by him.
It's strange to talk about the aggression he has, as FiL is a slight man, who has never raised his hands to his children, I've never heard him raise his voice or swear. This illness has changed his character completely.
Anyway on Sat morning (after another sleepless night) my MiL, Husband (we have been going over on weekends to help care whenever we can) and SiL decided they could no longer cope and asked SS for help with residential care.
He was placed on Saturday (yesterday) afternoon. This was the same home he has been in for day care.
This morning however, they rang and asked MiL to come and collect him as they couldn't cope with him. She refused and said if they couldn't how on earth were his family meant to.
I think they wanted her to take him to a hospital (I guess to a mental health unit).
She said no, as he has been aggressive enough towards his family (telling his children he has disowned them for trying to kill him etc), before they put him in care, and I can't see anyway he would willingly go to a hospital with them.
She rang SS and they interviened. They are trying to replace him tomorrow, but I suspect they will have him sectioned, so the doctors can medicate him, I suppose they may put him in a secure mental health unit too.
I'm sorry for such a long post but would like to know if anyone can answer:-
What happens if he is sectioned/ what if no care homes will accept him in future?
What are the next stages of dementia and approx how long is a patient in each stage? (he seems to be going downhill rapidly)
Any other things we should do or say to SS?
Many thanks in advance.
Helen