Don't really know how to start or why I'm writing this but selfishly I hope it helps me process things a bit better. My mum was diagnosed today with stage 3 alzheimer's and stage 4 dementia and I'm heartbroken. Although I already knew, hearing dad say the words hit me hard. Mum had a stroke about 20 years ago and we were warned then she may not recover, we were warned to prepare for the worst but 3 months in hospital and after a lot of hard work she recovered well and went on to have a completely normal active life. Up until about 4 years ago when it was noticeable she was becoming forgetful, anniversary cards in the wrong month or to the wrong people but I suppose we found the 'silly things' funny. I have fought with my dad to get her seen and was constantly told by him it's her age, it happens to us all. But when he broke his ankle and ended up in hospital himself for 7 days the decline in mum was rapid and I took her to the doctors myself and started the process. After several long months of waiting we got the diagnosis today, he has not been completely honest with her just said she has a bit of dementia and a bit of alzheimer's is that the right thing to do? Shouldn't she know the truth? Or is it not worth upsetting her for a while until she forgets we've said it. I have so many questions I don't even know which ones to ask first. All I can see ahead is her not knowing who I am and losing my darling mum completely and wondering how long am I going to have her for. I'm so scared. Sorry for the ramble think I just needed to start to get it out.