Hi there,
Luckily, Mum and I are very close both emotionally and logistically and I am Mum’s part-time carer.
My challenge is that despite popping in on her several times a week, I’m also full-time shift worker and newly married!
I know that sadly, Mum’s condition will worsen one day and I’ve spoken to her about my trying to keep her as independent as possible for as long as possible but that one day I may need to bring on board an extra carer other than me.
Mum currently has district nurses go in on mornings to give meds (unless I’m taking her to medical appts before work), in which case I’ll do this.
I’m fortunate that every six weeks a family friend will look after Mum for a week - a fortnight, to give me some respite but I’m now juggling a demanding senior colleague in my day job (concierge/receptionist) and we have a high staff turnover so it’s so hard.
I’m sorry this post is so long! My husband and I Visited a local nursing home but the fees were £1,200 wkly which I cannot afford and due to Mum’s savings we cannot get support although I read somewhere that If somebody has Alzheimer’s and other complex medical issues (in Mum’s case also breast cancer and heart failure to name a few) that they should assess the medical needs first but when I raise this, I’m fobbed off.
I’m now at a point where at best I have £100 spare a month but this would only cover 4 hrs care a week.
Please could you kindly share if you’ve been in a similar situation and how you coped/or got round getting extra support?
I come from a very small family so I only really have our family friend to support me and my husband is in a difficult situation as although he emotionally supports me, his Mum has Parkinson’s, so I feel very isolated much of the time, so thought I’d post on this forum.
Thank you.
Luckily, Mum and I are very close both emotionally and logistically and I am Mum’s part-time carer.
My challenge is that despite popping in on her several times a week, I’m also full-time shift worker and newly married!
I know that sadly, Mum’s condition will worsen one day and I’ve spoken to her about my trying to keep her as independent as possible for as long as possible but that one day I may need to bring on board an extra carer other than me.
Mum currently has district nurses go in on mornings to give meds (unless I’m taking her to medical appts before work), in which case I’ll do this.
I’m fortunate that every six weeks a family friend will look after Mum for a week - a fortnight, to give me some respite but I’m now juggling a demanding senior colleague in my day job (concierge/receptionist) and we have a high staff turnover so it’s so hard.
I’m sorry this post is so long! My husband and I Visited a local nursing home but the fees were £1,200 wkly which I cannot afford and due to Mum’s savings we cannot get support although I read somewhere that If somebody has Alzheimer’s and other complex medical issues (in Mum’s case also breast cancer and heart failure to name a few) that they should assess the medical needs first but when I raise this, I’m fobbed off.
I’m now at a point where at best I have £100 spare a month but this would only cover 4 hrs care a week.
Please could you kindly share if you’ve been in a similar situation and how you coped/or got round getting extra support?
I come from a very small family so I only really have our family friend to support me and my husband is in a difficult situation as although he emotionally supports me, his Mum has Parkinson’s, so I feel very isolated much of the time, so thought I’d post on this forum.
Thank you.
