51 year old sister has dementia, no help
Hi, I am new to this site. My sister is 51 and has lived with me and my family for over 2years now. She has went from getting lost once in a while to not knowing what day, month or her own birthday. She knows people but cannot form sentences or do any daily tasks what so ever. She gets up all night long calling my name for help, only to say she does not know what she needs help for.
No sort of anxiety meds or sleeping pills seem to help. Most doctors wanted to treat her as depressed, but with MRI's revealing brain shrinkage, they had to concede what I felt was a form of dementia all along. Along with this, no state care or county services will assist me b/c of her age and the fact that at one time she was depressed, even with the new proof from reputable hospitals and doctors.
I love my sister, but the constant 24/7 strain of her following me around, saying my name and wanting me to do everything for her, from bathing to dressing her is making me go crazy. the only help I have is my 84 yr. old father and his wife, but its just too difficult for them to deal with it for more than a day or so.
Anyone out there with similar problems? I seem to only read about people whos loved ones are forgetful or need assistance, I don't hear that its driving anyone crazy. Am I selfish?
Help! also..anyone know how to deal with all the red tape?
deevee