Hi all,
Mum has Vascular Dementia, diagnosed in October last year and in the middle stages. She is 83 and being cared for at home by Dad who is 89. She goes to a day centre twice per week but Dad is now struggling to cope, the phone calls are becoming more frequent, were just in the evenings but now at any time of the day. Mum goes back to a time and place where she lived years ago. Its always the same thing, wanting to know where her husband is, even though he is there with her, often keeps a dinner back for him, packs carrier bags ready to go home etc. Dad wont admit he is struggling, far too proud for that and I think deep down he worries that Mum will be taken away from him. The CPN has suggested respite care, Dad says hes fine and doesn't need it. I ve tried explaining to him that we need to put something in place before we get to a crisis point which I feel is not far away. Its just so heartbreaking, dementia is so cruel. Also, they are self-funding and I have been told that because of this, there is an expectation that the family will arrange any care, respite or otherwise, that needs to be put in place. Just don't know where to start! Thanks for reading this.
Mum has Vascular Dementia, diagnosed in October last year and in the middle stages. She is 83 and being cared for at home by Dad who is 89. She goes to a day centre twice per week but Dad is now struggling to cope, the phone calls are becoming more frequent, were just in the evenings but now at any time of the day. Mum goes back to a time and place where she lived years ago. Its always the same thing, wanting to know where her husband is, even though he is there with her, often keeps a dinner back for him, packs carrier bags ready to go home etc. Dad wont admit he is struggling, far too proud for that and I think deep down he worries that Mum will be taken away from him. The CPN has suggested respite care, Dad says hes fine and doesn't need it. I ve tried explaining to him that we need to put something in place before we get to a crisis point which I feel is not far away. Its just so heartbreaking, dementia is so cruel. Also, they are self-funding and I have been told that because of this, there is an expectation that the family will arrange any care, respite or otherwise, that needs to be put in place. Just don't know where to start! Thanks for reading this.