Under the guidance and leadership of our social worker I have just placed my wife into a care home. She is 52 and has experienced a sudden onset of dementia associated with Parkinson's disease in the last 12 months or so. She is the youngest person in the home by some 25 years. I am 50, our son is 16. I cannot retire to look after her, nor do I want to as I fear I would go bonkers. Is there anyone else out there in similar circumstances? Our son just feels relief, I feel crushing grief and guilt.