My husbands been having memory problems for a few years. I first took him for a memory test two years ago it Was 91 not to bad from all accounts. The problem is he's a drinker likes his beer. I've asked him to cut down so much over the years but to no effect. He was told at his first memory check up he needed to abstain completely for at least two days a week, which he said he would do. He did for about three weeks then back to normal. The Dr told him he had what's known as Alcohol induced Alzheimer's but was at a stage that he could not get worse if he cut his drinking down. This week I've taken him for another test and he scored 83 the cut off point was 82 the Dr told him he was only 1 point off being diagnosed with Alzheimer's. He doesn't accept this. He knows he's getting forgetful but put it down to getting old, he's 68. He doesn't think it's the drink. I'm feeling like I'm banging my head against a brick wall. I work and he's retired so many days I come home not knowing what problems to expect. Sometimes he's gone out and left the doors open. He forgot how to put the car into reverse and swore blind something was wrong with the gear stick. I've mentioned to his Dr his lack of confidence when driving and my husband readily admits he doesn't feel safe driving. I was hoping the Dr could suggest revoking his licence but he didn't. He's left hot taps running for hours, freezer door in garage open for days so I've had to throw away all foods. Lots more to mention. I'm feeling like I'm having to sort every thing and he doesn't even try to help.
A year ago we talked about moving to a smaller house with a smaller garden because where we are now has a very large garden. Now I feel like it's the right time to do this so I know I will cope better when he gets worse. He's not interested. I've suggested we both do power of Attorney but he says he's not ready for that yet. I'm going to do mine. It's about knowing people's wishes, what they want for themselves when they are no longer longer to act for themselves. I'm feeling more and more like its getting difficult to talk to him about what the future may hold and what we should be doing now to help prepare for it. It's making me ill thinking of it. Any advise would be so appreciated Thank you all for just being there xxx
A year ago we talked about moving to a smaller house with a smaller garden because where we are now has a very large garden. Now I feel like it's the right time to do this so I know I will cope better when he gets worse. He's not interested. I've suggested we both do power of Attorney but he says he's not ready for that yet. I'm going to do mine. It's about knowing people's wishes, what they want for themselves when they are no longer longer to act for themselves. I'm feeling more and more like its getting difficult to talk to him about what the future may hold and what we should be doing now to help prepare for it. It's making me ill thinking of it. Any advise would be so appreciated Thank you all for just being there xxx
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