Hi, just wanted to speak to someone about my situation - Dad been diagnosed with acute memory problems some time ago and things have just got worse and worse. Have spent the last 2 years as a mediator between parents and am at the end of my tether. Mother has given up on Dad and lets him get on with what he wants to do she is equally as frustrated and on more than one occasion I understand has physically attacked him out of frustration. He's been hospitalised within the past 3 weeks twice. Once with an internal bleed from Diverticulosis - his diet is **** (when he remembers to eat) Still drinks and his memory is terrible. Asked him what month we were in and he said November - Asked him what day it was (was my sons Birthday) and he didn't know. Got confused last week, I dont think he had anything to eat on Friday - Had five pints fell over 3 times and ended up in hospital - Can't remember anything that happened - Physically hospital is telling me he is fine but I know he's not. Desperate as to what to do - He still lives with my Mum although they are like ships passing in the night. His routine is terrible - Gets up past midday - Hygiene awful. I've tried and tried to sirt it out but can't. Amcrying as I write this - It is affecting my home life and relationship with my family. Am trying to sort it out bu can't Don't know where to turn - Following a discussion with the hospital on Friday we have evntually for a referal to SS. Hopefully something will now happen - (He's been referred 3 times accoring to what Doctors and Health professionals tell me - but not at all acording to SS!!) Anyone got any adivice - We as a family have never been in this situation - Don't know what to do or where to go to for help - Mother has tried to get help but everyone keeps telling her she needs to be more tolerant - It's gone past this she is stressed also - a little in denial and believes Dad is doing things deliberately - Have tried to get her help also as she has a history of depression but she says it's Dads fault and not hers. Relationship totally broken down - It's really hard - What do I do next?