Hi I am new to Talking Point. My mother has dementia and my dad is caring for her at home at the moment. They are 84 and 81 respectively. I live around 100 miles away and find it very difficult to give the support I think my dad needs. The local dementia team have now become involved and this is a great relief for my dad who has insisted on soldiering on without outside help for a few years now. Mum has real trouble with hallucinations as well as depression, anger and aggressive behaviour towards my dad. Mum has had an initial assessment and been prescribed an anti- psychotic drug to try. I have read such a lot of negative stuff about these drugs and am a bit worried. However if they work and alleviate a bit of the stress for dad that would be a good thing. I also feel such a lot of guilt - because I live a long way away from them and can't help enough, I leave too much to my dad and I know if it came to it I would not be able to cope with looking after mum at home myself. Sorry this is a bit self centred. I would love to hear other people's views on the use of anti psychotic drugs in particular.