hello, i am new to this and as you can see from my pofile i am trying to get info to be able to support mydad. My mum has been prescribed Aricept which i believe is for Alzheimers? but this has not been confirmed by the doctor she saw. At present my mum is being difficult when its tablet time and has started to get nasty and hits out at my dad saying awful things to him, sometimes she ends up taking the tablet and sometimes not, i am trying to make different suggestions as to how this can be made easier but he gets wound up as he is on heart tablets and blood pressure tablets and obviously this isnt good for him or my mum. Is this usual for sufferers to refuse medication does anyone know?
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Welcome to TP Brennie,
We had problems at times getting my Mum to take her medication. She would hide the tablets in her mouth and then spit them out when we weren't looking.
Some of her drugs we managed to get in liquid form which made life easier, but it can become something of a battle. Some days are better than others and there doesn't seem to be a pattern to it.
I'm sure other people will be along to offer their advice and suggestions.
Take care
We had problems at times getting my Mum to take her medication. She would hide the tablets in her mouth and then spit them out when we weren't looking.
Some of her drugs we managed to get in liquid form which made life easier, but it can become something of a battle. Some days are better than others and there doesn't seem to be a pattern to it.I'm sure other people will be along to offer their advice and suggestions.
Take care
Welcome to TP brennie.
When my husband was first prescribed Aricept, no-one actually said `Alzheimers` but I presumed it was because that`s what Aricept is prescribed for.
Did your mother have a scan? My husband did and was found to have brain shrinkage. Was anything like this said about your mother?
It`s hard that your mother is being difficult about her medication. It is quite common. Some people have found putting it with favourite food helps. I don`t know if you have tried that......perhaps with chocolate spread or yoghurt, anything she is particularly fond of.
Your father could do with some advice from his GP , if he has heart problems. It is going to be very difficult for him. He mustn`t be afraid to ask for help.
Please keep in contact with TP. There will be a lot of support for you and your father and it will help.
Take care xx
When my husband was first prescribed Aricept, no-one actually said `Alzheimers` but I presumed it was because that`s what Aricept is prescribed for.
Did your mother have a scan? My husband did and was found to have brain shrinkage. Was anything like this said about your mother?
It`s hard that your mother is being difficult about her medication. It is quite common. Some people have found putting it with favourite food helps. I don`t know if you have tried that......perhaps with chocolate spread or yoghurt, anything she is particularly fond of.
Your father could do with some advice from his GP , if he has heart problems. It is going to be very difficult for him. He mustn`t be afraid to ask for help.
Please keep in contact with TP. There will be a lot of support for you and your father and it will help.
Take care xx
Hi brennie & Welcome to TP.
Taking medication can be a problem and I found depending on the mood helped greatly, but, sometimes medication needs to be taken at a certain time so you can't wait for a good mood. It's so hard finding a happy balance and with your dad not been well this aggravates the problem, this I know first hand. Sometimes I would tell mum when she refused... alright I'm phoning to let the DR know you wont do as he has asked, sometimes that worked. I hope you can find a solution. Take Care. Taffy.
Taking medication can be a problem and I found depending on the mood helped greatly, but, sometimes medication needs to be taken at a certain time so you can't wait for a good mood. It's so hard finding a happy balance and with your dad not been well this aggravates the problem, this I know first hand. Sometimes I would tell mum when she refused... alright I'm phoning to let the DR know you wont do as he has asked, sometimes that worked. I hope you can find a solution. Take Care. Taffy.
Hi brennie, welcome to TP.
I'm glad you're wanting to support your mum and dad. I care for my husband, and it always pleases me when people post that they want to know how to support their parents.
I can understand your dad getting frustrated, it's very difficult when to are trying to help the person with Alzheimer's, and they are refusing to co-operate.
Your dad is going to need a lot of support from you, particularly as he has heart trouble. Try not to criticise him, just tell him what a good job he's doing, that makes such a difference. And give him breaks whenever you can, so that he can relax.
I'm glad you've found TP, please keep in touch with us.
I'm glad you're wanting to support your mum and dad. I care for my husband, and it always pleases me when people post that they want to know how to support their parents.
I can understand your dad getting frustrated, it's very difficult when to are trying to help the person with Alzheimer's, and they are refusing to co-operate.
Your dad is going to need a lot of support from you, particularly as he has heart trouble. Try not to criticise him, just tell him what a good job he's doing, that makes such a difference. And give him breaks whenever you can, so that he can relax.
I'm glad you've found TP, please keep in touch with us.
Hi Brennie,
I too am in exactly the same situation as you. Mum with AD and dad with heart problems and arthritis (which impedes his walking ability at times) Mum is the same some nights the medication goes down easily, others they are not doing any good, and other nights just refuses to take them. She has been wandering every night recently which is also a worry. I am like an only child as my sister lives in Australia, but I find it difficult to be there all the time as I have a child with epilepsy and learning difficulties.
It doesn't make it any easier but knowing someone else is in the same situation can help you cope better. I have been reading TP for some time now but never posted until now.
Lotti
I too am in exactly the same situation as you. Mum with AD and dad with heart problems and arthritis (which impedes his walking ability at times) Mum is the same some nights the medication goes down easily, others they are not doing any good, and other nights just refuses to take them. She has been wandering every night recently which is also a worry. I am like an only child as my sister lives in Australia, but I find it difficult to be there all the time as I have a child with epilepsy and learning difficulties.
It doesn't make it any easier but knowing someone else is in the same situation can help you cope better. I have been reading TP for some time now but never posted until now.
Lotti
Hi Lotti, glad you've decided to join us.
Please post whenever you like, either for advice or support.
Love,
Please post whenever you like, either for advice or support.
Love,
Hello Lotti.
I`m glad you finally decided to post.
I know it doesn`t make it easier in the practical sense, but if you continue to post and share your experiences and feelings, I`m sure it will help you feel less isolated.
There`s always someone here to off load to, who understands the stresses of caring for someone with Alzheimers, and many have felt better just after writing down all the things that trouble them.
Take care
Love xx
I`m glad you finally decided to post.
I know it doesn`t make it easier in the practical sense, but if you continue to post and share your experiences and feelings, I`m sure it will help you feel less isolated.
There`s always someone here to off load to, who understands the stresses of caring for someone with Alzheimers, and many have felt better just after writing down all the things that trouble them.
Take care
Love xx
Aricept is licensed for use with Alzheimers and nothing else - that is what we were told.
It's not uncommon for people with dementia to refuse medication, they may believe there is nothing wrong with them and hence cannot understand why someone is trying to force them to take pills. Or they may have delusions that the pills are poison or something like that. Or may simply not understand what medicine is anymore or what it is for.
If mum is being agressive then it needs to be reported to the GP.
Is it just the tablet taking that is the trigger, or does it happen over other things, too?
It's not uncommon for people with dementia to refuse medication, they may believe there is nothing wrong with them and hence cannot understand why someone is trying to force them to take pills. Or they may have delusions that the pills are poison or something like that. Or may simply not understand what medicine is anymore or what it is for.
If mum is being agressive then it needs to be reported to the GP.
Is it just the tablet taking that is the trigger, or does it happen over other things, too?
I would say yes , my mother was the same she even would not take her medication for blood purser , diabetes , water tablets , that she was on before she was given a a tablet for AZ
she was very paranoid , believing I was trying to poison her giving her so many tablets it was like she had forgotten that she use to take medication even before AZ took my mother long while to relies that the medication was helping her .
that was only because the medication for AZ must of kick in , call it cruel to say , but I would say she die if she did not take medication , which was true anyway , because she could of given herself a stroke if she did not take medication for , diabetes , blood purser and i was not going to stand around & watch her die , so she take it .
but like I said above when medication kick in for AZ , she took them , even thought she would count them all every time
I have read that you can put tablets in food or get it in a syrup form
Hi Brennie,
I have a similar situation to yours only the other way round.Dad hasn't been diagnosed as yet,we are waiting for a specialist to visit after a G.P referral.Mum is finding things a struggle as her mobility is not that good and she suffers from hypertension.water retention and has chest problems.Myself and my family have become concerned about mum as she got stuck in the bath and was there for an hour trying to get out(she dropped her mobile in the bath trying to ring one of us).Dad was unable to help as he is very small framed and mums a bit bigger.He has lost the capacity to use a phone.I contacted social services last Tuesday and today they visited Mum and Dad to assess their physical needs.What a wonderful woman the occupational therapist was.They are having the house adapted in several areas and a bath hoist which mum can use herself.I will never say again that Wigan council are a waste of time!!!!!!I am very impressed that this has all happened within a week.Get whatever help you can for you and your dad,our shoulders are only made to carry so much.good luck.love elainex
I have a similar situation to yours only the other way round.Dad hasn't been diagnosed as yet,we are waiting for a specialist to visit after a G.P referral.Mum is finding things a struggle as her mobility is not that good and she suffers from hypertension.water retention and has chest problems.Myself and my family have become concerned about mum as she got stuck in the bath and was there for an hour trying to get out(she dropped her mobile in the bath trying to ring one of us).Dad was unable to help as he is very small framed and mums a bit bigger.He has lost the capacity to use a phone.I contacted social services last Tuesday and today they visited Mum and Dad to assess their physical needs.What a wonderful woman the occupational therapist was.They are having the house adapted in several areas and a bath hoist which mum can use herself.I will never say again that Wigan council are a waste of time!!!!!!I am very impressed that this has all happened within a week.Get whatever help you can for you and your dad,our shoulders are only made to carry so much.good luck.love elainex
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