Where to start? Well, how about who is the sufferer (from AD, or other variety of memory problems) & how old are they; is it yourself or, if not, what is the relationship (your Mum/Dad/wife/partner etc.) Do you live with them, or are you some distance from their home - not sure which situation is worse there! There are plus-points & negatives to each.
I'm sure once you get started, it will become easier. Don't be afraid to be frank (John ) there is plenty of plain speaking around here.
I know how you feel i have only been on TP 5 MONTHS
they all know i took 2-3 goes at trying to start talking and opening up still do find it a bit hard But once you say a few things they help you on we are all in the same boat it has helped me a lot and i am sure it will you
It is easier once you start
Love Bel x