Hi My dad died in Feb 2005.He had been caring for mum for the last 4 years at least.Although I lived 60 miles away I visited mum and dad regularly and they visited us. I had no idea how bad my mum was until he died....mum was always very quiet when she was with him....he always said she was very deaf and he always did the talking for both of them.As soon as dad died it became obvious mum could not fend for herself and my brother took over full time care of her with me going to relieve him so that he could go home to spend time with his wife! To cut a long story short mum has now moved in with us as from last weekend (she thinks it is just a holiday). I knew it would be hard but she is being SO difficult....insists our house is hers....tries to escape...orders me out of "her house"....says I am neglecting her....says I am not her daughter because I keep her locked in her bedroom constantly(totally untrue although we do keep the house exit doors locked because if she escapes she'll get lost.....In reality I am at her beck and call...I have a husband and 3 kids and I do everything for her...I even take her out every single day but of course she forgets....How long will it take her to settle?...It's like being a new mum again...I'm up during the night because I'm afraid she'll scare the kids and she needs her sheets changing quite often since she's been here!! Any tips to settle her down?!!!