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Alison K

Registered User
Mar 29, 2008
Found this site by accident. My father is due to see specialist next month following another stroke, his Dr has hinted at dementia ? vascular. Feel somewhat apprehensive about future as we live 100 miles apart and he is a widower. Despite being a trained nurse I feel absolutely over laden with it all. reading other peoples experiences does help and i see carers time and time again trying to cope with their loved ones. You have to keep a sense of humour otherwise you will go under. thank goodness for sites like these.


Registered User
Nov 16, 2007
East Midlands
Hello Alison,

Welcome! I'm glad you found us..there's a wealth of support and info here..and a good bit of humour too.

It must be daunting for you with your dad so far away..I know several on TP are in similar situations..and I'm sure they find it helps to share.

I too am a trained nurse..have just "retired" to care for my husband who has AD/Vascular Dementia..being a qualified nurse doesn't necessarily make it any easier when we are caring for those we love..I'm sure you're finding that out!

TP has been a great support to me..I'm sure you'll find the same!

Love Gigi xx


Registered User
Jul 10, 2007
Welcome Alison :D

You will find there is quite a few of us trained nurses
(I retired after Dad died to look after mum) on this site caring for our loved ones and I think being a nurse actualy makes it harder caring for our families. We know the pitfalls :eek:

Grannie G

Volunteer Moderator
Apr 3, 2006
Hello Alison.

I`m not a trained nurse, ;) but care for my husband.

Living so far away from your father is an added burden, and it`s quite common these days, when families move all over the place for work.

I hope you`ll get the support and information you need from the membership of Talikng Point [TP]. It has been such a lifeline to so many of us.

Take care xx


Registered User
Aug 29, 2006
SW Scotland
Hi Alison

I'm not a nurse either, but I do know that nurses find it just as difficult as the rest of us to care for a loved one with dementia. For one thing, the emotional ties make it that much harder to watch your loved one suffer, and for another you can't go home at the end of your shift!

I hope you'll find a lot of support here, please if you need advice about anything, or even a bit of support, just post. There's always someone about to talk to.

Alison K

Registered User
Mar 29, 2008
:)Thanks everyone, I was amazed to see so many replies so quick. Will let you know what happens on the 8th. If I'm honest i think its been coming for some time. dad like many elderly men of his generation (hes 73) coped to a point when my mum died but was always very needy. He's very capable but i can see the cracks forming. Like many of my generation (I'm 46) I'm in the sandwich situation kids and aged parent. I have 2 boys of 12 and 6 and a lovely husband and good friends, so I will cope, just sometimes the crisis comes when everything else has gone pear shaped. still, thanks again. Will keep in touch Alison X