1. richard030332

    richard030332 Registered User

    Mar 27, 2008
    2
    Cornwall
    Hello. I am Richard from Cornwall and I look after my wife who has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's. It is all very new to us and I hope to make contact with others to whom I can talk
     
  2. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    69,098
    Kent
    Hello Richard,

    I`m so sorry about your wife`s diagnosis. However you certainly have come to the right place.

    You will find lots of people on this site who will understand and offer support and I hope you will find it helpful.

    My husband has Alzheimers. He was diagnosed in 2005 but we now think it had been developing since 1999. It is a long and lonely journey, but Talking Point [TP] has helped so much, I hope it does the same for you.
     
  3. richard030332

    richard030332 Registered User

    Mar 27, 2008
    2
    Cornwall
    Many thanks for your reply. Yes I think my wife started some time ago. Just not diagnosed! She is 78 and I am 77 For the most part we are self sufficient but it would be good to chat to others who understand. I find that family and friends just want to tell you it is not too bad and that all elderly people get forgetful! You need to be on call 24/7 in order to appreciate the position as you will know!!
    Richard
     
  4. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    69,098
    Kent
    This is the easiest option. The people who say that are either in denial, frightened for themselves or are nervous of becoming involved.

    Until you have lived with dementia 24/7, no-one is in a position to make this type of observation. It is dismissive and hurtful.
     
  5. Skye

    Skye Registered User

    Aug 29, 2006
    17,000
    SW Scotland
    Hi Richard, welcome to TP

    I care for my husband, who was diagnosed in 2000, and has recently gone into care.

    I'm sure you'll find lots of people to talk to here, we're all pretty friendly.

    Best wishes,
     
  6. christine_batch

    christine_batch Registered User

    Jul 31, 2007
    3,388
    Buckinghamshire
    Hi Richard,
    Welcome to Talking Point.
    My husband is in last stage in E.M.I. Unit. Diagnoised when he was 58.
    Talking Point has been a life saver and have had so much support and made may friends.
    Someone always seems to be on line 24/7.
    We share the sorrow, heartache, worry and stress but we do have our happy moments and that we share.
    Best wishes
    Christine
     
  7. pinkjandt

    pinkjandt Registered User

    Apr 11, 2008
    25
    hampshire
    Hello Richard

    Welcome, I am in a similar situation, my husband was first thought to have vasular dementia, but in March it became Alzheimers----such a frightening word

    But,you come to terms with it, it isn,t going to change for the better unfortunately,what is needed is that you come to accept the limitations that it imposes
    That you re-assess what is important to you

    I have come to realise that we do still enjoy each others company and that if Terry misses out on remembering things, as he reminded me the other day [ a good day ] every time something good is happening, the fact that I have to tell him 10 times means that he is overjoyed 10 times over.

    regards
    Jan
     
  8. gigi

    gigi Registered User

    Nov 16, 2007
    7,788
    East Midlands
    Hello Richard,

    And another welcome to TP.

    I look after my husband who has Alzheimers and Vascular Dementia.He was diagnosed 2 years ago..but with hindsight I can see that this was creeping on long before that!

    I'm learning to take a day at a time..and to try to be flexible to fit in with my husband's life..which has really shrunk recently.

    TP is a godsend..there's always someone here to care and share..we even have some fun sometimes..:)

    Love gigi xx
     
  9. Lynne

    Lynne Registered User

    Jun 3, 2005
    3,433
    Suffolk,England
    :) Jan, what a fabulous way to look at it!

    Richard, welcome. There is more hands-on knowledge & experience here than all the medics put together.
    As someone else said, you have to live with it to understand what it's like.
    And to quote yet another TP contributor, "If you can't change something, try to change the way you look at it."

    Best wishes
     

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