Dear forum, please could you help.
Some time ago (approx 12 months) my aunty was diagnosed with dementia. My aunty is in her 70’s and has always been a proud lady and looked after herself and her appearance. However, over the last couple of months as her condition has worsened and my uncle has found it difficult to cope, her wellbeing and appearance has dropped significantly. As a result of this and the way in which my uncle was treating and speaking to my aunty, the family met with my aunties Social Worker and my uncle. From this meeting my uncle stated that he could not cope anymore therefore the family offered to care for my aunty 2 days a week and the Social Worker recommended home care at least 3 days a week. This would give my uncle time on his own to recharge his batteries. Since this time a number of issues has arisen that has cast doubt on my uncle’s intentions with regard to my auntie’s care and wellbeing. We have found out recently that the offer of care has been refused even though my uncle keeps telling everyone that he cannot cope. Also only the other day we found out that he has had my aunty sections for trying to get out of the car on a dual carriageway. However, my auntie does not know how to use the seat belt and my uncle’s car has lockable doors from the driver’s position. On assessment at the hospital a couple of days later the section was removed as my aunty posed no threat to anybody or herself. Following this we have received notification that my uncle has applied to the Court of Protection to be appointed to look after my auntie’s assets and finances but not her welfare. A lot of other things have happened that have cast doubt of my uncles intention. I and my family fully understand that my aunty will not get better but are extremely concerned regarding my aunties wellbeing.
After all of that, my question is what can we do to ensure that my auntie’s assets are used to provide the best care possible.
Kind regard - Janus
Some time ago (approx 12 months) my aunty was diagnosed with dementia. My aunty is in her 70’s and has always been a proud lady and looked after herself and her appearance. However, over the last couple of months as her condition has worsened and my uncle has found it difficult to cope, her wellbeing and appearance has dropped significantly. As a result of this and the way in which my uncle was treating and speaking to my aunty, the family met with my aunties Social Worker and my uncle. From this meeting my uncle stated that he could not cope anymore therefore the family offered to care for my aunty 2 days a week and the Social Worker recommended home care at least 3 days a week. This would give my uncle time on his own to recharge his batteries. Since this time a number of issues has arisen that has cast doubt on my uncle’s intentions with regard to my auntie’s care and wellbeing. We have found out recently that the offer of care has been refused even though my uncle keeps telling everyone that he cannot cope. Also only the other day we found out that he has had my aunty sections for trying to get out of the car on a dual carriageway. However, my auntie does not know how to use the seat belt and my uncle’s car has lockable doors from the driver’s position. On assessment at the hospital a couple of days later the section was removed as my aunty posed no threat to anybody or herself. Following this we have received notification that my uncle has applied to the Court of Protection to be appointed to look after my auntie’s assets and finances but not her welfare. A lot of other things have happened that have cast doubt of my uncles intention. I and my family fully understand that my aunty will not get better but are extremely concerned regarding my aunties wellbeing.
After all of that, my question is what can we do to ensure that my auntie’s assets are used to provide the best care possible.
Kind regard - Janus