Hello all! I have just written out a long intro and lost it all - d'oh! So to cut a long story short - I am 36 full time carer to mum who is 76. Not worked for several years. Got my first respite in October after over 4yrs of caring. Care workers attend 4 times a day. I take on a large amount of care needs for mum. She has vascular dementia and has the classic good and bad days. She is getting worse though. She even wakes me up frequently at night by shouting, which is great when you live in a flat! I have other issues related to caring - mum rents our home and is the tenant - she cannot sign the tenancy into my name thus if she goes into a home - I get kicked out as I could not afford the rent. So would be homeless. When she passes on I shall be left in a similar position, except I can inherit the tenancy but need to find the rent - not easy to get a well paid job when you haven't worked for some years! I have suffered and cleared up eczema on my hands, which I got through stress. I now have terrible scalp problems and some alopecia. I sometimes get very low - I'm 36 - my bf and I cannot plan a future. I don't know if I will ever have children, etc, etc. I hope by meeting new people who understand the caring role, I may learn to cope better and also learn some new tips and tricks! I don't moan all the time - contrary to my intro - but am very scared of the future, which is very unstable with the net result that I will lose my mum along with everything else.