Rivastigmine
This drug does seem to have helped with the night terrors, The dose is now 3 mg twice a day.
Sadly he now has a urine infection but I very quickly pushed and got antibiotics for him within a matter of hours. Initially they worked brilliantly, within four hours he was looking much better, but as I knew would happen his confusion has got worse. Worse than that is the fact that he doesn't seem to be able to register what I am saying and asking him to do in order to help me. I am having to lift a dead weight all on my own and he is doing nothing to help me with that, in fact he is pulling back against me all the time . I have 3 different layers of incontinence padding on him,because of the uncontrollable Urine flow, trying to avoid a reoccurrence of total,bed changing. How does wee get on a pillow??? and all he does when he needs to 'go' is pinch his Willy and pulls out of the pants !!! God it's small now! You need a pin to pull it out!! Plus risking the urine going everywhere. Strangely though in the middle of the night last night he managed to get out of bed and go to the toilet himself, twice. How do they do that? And yet they can't understand what you're trying to ask of them.
The trouble is I end up shouting at him and having to Pull on him hard in order to stop him from going backwards . I really don't know what else to do if anybody has a suggestion I would be very grateful.
His daughter is coming to look after him, previously arranged before the infection, and as I have booked a hotel with a girlfriend to go away I'm continuing to do so. Part of me hopes he's not a lot better so that she knows what is going on and how very difficult he can be, be it the illness or his own personality that makes him like this.
I hope I'm doing right by going away .