This is my first contact with talking point and I 'm not sure if i'm doing this right!
there is 20 yrs between me and my husband who is 85, who started with dementia 3 years ago and although I know it is going to get a thousand times worse( I am beginning to feel the strain on certain days.
He is having night terrors and fighting himself, I have left the marital bed for fear of injury, having been grabbed round the throat one night. I feel so desperately sorry for him as he gets so frightened and worried as this person, attacking him in bed, is so real. We have named him Basil, as in Basil Faulty!!!(Fawlty) he also had one in the middle of the day last week when I was out.
At the moment I am able to care for him well at home as he is not too much trouble, more of a frustration, with the, seemingly, stupid things he says and does. Its hard to believe at first that its not intentional! I know different now but it doesn't stop me getting the screaming abdabs sometimes.
it seems dreadful to say how comforted I am to hear others have the same reactions. Thank you so much. I think I might find this forum a great help. Even if i do just blether on! its cathartic i'm sure.
Do we all hope for the day when this most awful illness is over for us.? and we , the carer, can get back to what life we have left.o
there is 20 yrs between me and my husband who is 85, who started with dementia 3 years ago and although I know it is going to get a thousand times worse( I am beginning to feel the strain on certain days.
He is having night terrors and fighting himself, I have left the marital bed for fear of injury, having been grabbed round the throat one night. I feel so desperately sorry for him as he gets so frightened and worried as this person, attacking him in bed, is so real. We have named him Basil, as in Basil Faulty!!!(Fawlty) he also had one in the middle of the day last week when I was out.
At the moment I am able to care for him well at home as he is not too much trouble, more of a frustration, with the, seemingly, stupid things he says and does. Its hard to believe at first that its not intentional! I know different now but it doesn't stop me getting the screaming abdabs sometimes.
it seems dreadful to say how comforted I am to hear others have the same reactions. Thank you so much. I think I might find this forum a great help. Even if i do just blether on! its cathartic i'm sure.
Do we all hope for the day when this most awful illness is over for us.? and we , the carer, can get back to what life we have left.o
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