I really am sorry for not posting very often. I lurk daily at work, but our system will not allow me to respond. At home, our 43 animals have more to do with that. Last week my 84 year old Mum finally moved into a care home close to where we live. She seems content and hasn't asked after her old home once. I guess that's the advantage you get from them spending several weeks in hospital first. Having read some of your posts about sitting down and writing cards together, that is exactly what I found myself doing this evening. Mum couldn't remember a close friend from 15 years ago, so we sent one to her dead sister instead. (Yes, I agree entirely - entering their reality is so much easier). I left her plugged in to her new iPod. It was only recently that I realised I hadn't heard her listening to music for ages. I guess she couldn't operate the CD player. Now I've ripped all her CDs and downloaded books and radio programmes. The staff were instructed to unplug her at bed time! Sitting in the car outside, I turned on my own CD and had to laugh. It was very tempting to sneak one of my Eminem tracks into her playlist and watch her expression. With a few days to go until I get my notice at work (nice Christmas present), my old sector have just offered me a job. Actually, not any job, but the one I am doing right now. It seems as though they don't want to pay more expensive staff to do the rest of my work - the work that can't be handled in Bangalore. It probably won't be finalised until the New Year, but it looks as though I can still afford the vet bills (just). It's difficult knowing what to say to you at this time of year as I know many of you are going through a difficult time. I guess the best thing is to wish for a peaceful Christmas and the strength to handle whatever the New Year may bring.