Hi everyone,
Hopefully this is the right place to be putting this? I'm new here, and I guess I wanted to introduce myself.
My name's Laura, I'm 24, and in August my Dad (aged 59) was diagnosed with Alzheimer's.
I've been really struggling with the diagnosis to be honest, I just feel like there's now this dark cloud hanging over our family. I find it really hard to talk to people about it because I just get upset and I hate getting upset in front of people (silly, I know, but I just don't like it) and also I just really feel like nobody gets it. People keep telling me how awful it is, and how sorry they are, and how either their friends grandparent or their own grandparent had it and I just want to scream at them NO that is not the same as what I'm feeling! My emotions are constantly all over the place, I get upset/angry whenever I stop and really think about the whole situation.
I'm also getting frustrated with the "system" - my Dad was made redundant 3 years ago (partly due to his health, which we now suspect was the very early signs of his Alzheimer's) and as he was only 56, he couldn't get his state pension - luckily he was prepared and had set up a private pension as well, which he is now living off of as well as his savings. He can't get his pension until he's 65, even though he's technically retired. He's not entitled to most of the benefits out there because he has capital over a certain amount... How is that fair?! That someone who worked all their life, built up some decent savings to provide for their family in the future, then gets penalised because they were trying to be prepared, and to look after their family, and at the time when they need support the most, are turned away? It's ludicrous...
Anyway, sorry, that was a bit of a rant in the end. So hi, hello, my name's Laura, I'm stumbling through this whole thing right now so any advice or kind words or just anything really would be much appreciated and I promise I'm not as crazy as this post has possibly made me sound
Hopefully this is the right place to be putting this? I'm new here, and I guess I wanted to introduce myself.
My name's Laura, I'm 24, and in August my Dad (aged 59) was diagnosed with Alzheimer's.
I've been really struggling with the diagnosis to be honest, I just feel like there's now this dark cloud hanging over our family. I find it really hard to talk to people about it because I just get upset and I hate getting upset in front of people (silly, I know, but I just don't like it) and also I just really feel like nobody gets it. People keep telling me how awful it is, and how sorry they are, and how either their friends grandparent or their own grandparent had it and I just want to scream at them NO that is not the same as what I'm feeling! My emotions are constantly all over the place, I get upset/angry whenever I stop and really think about the whole situation.
I'm also getting frustrated with the "system" - my Dad was made redundant 3 years ago (partly due to his health, which we now suspect was the very early signs of his Alzheimer's) and as he was only 56, he couldn't get his state pension - luckily he was prepared and had set up a private pension as well, which he is now living off of as well as his savings. He can't get his pension until he's 65, even though he's technically retired. He's not entitled to most of the benefits out there because he has capital over a certain amount... How is that fair?! That someone who worked all their life, built up some decent savings to provide for their family in the future, then gets penalised because they were trying to be prepared, and to look after their family, and at the time when they need support the most, are turned away? It's ludicrous...
Anyway, sorry, that was a bit of a rant in the end. So hi, hello, my name's Laura, I'm stumbling through this whole thing right now so any advice or kind words or just anything really would be much appreciated and I promise I'm not as crazy as this post has possibly made me sound