Hi everyone
My name is Nikki & I live in France. My father, who lives in the uk with my mother & sister was diagnosed about 7 years ago with alzheimers. Up until now we have really not had any issues but during the last few months we have seen a marked decline, which probably is expected.
Its difficult for me to support my family as I live abroad and I spend all my time looking after my three young children, one of whom has autism. Therefore its hard for me to get to travel very often as my son is very dependant.
My mother rang me yesterday to tell me that my father has become very aggressive with violent outbursts of temper over the last week or so. This is to the point he is very rude to her and I can understand the hurt it causes. The other problem is that if anyone now comes to the house( window cleaner, plumber etc) he has started being rude and shouting at them too & ordering them off his property etc etc. The rages have compounded over the last 5 days as he has decided ( being a football fanatic all his life) that the new england manager is unsuitable because he is not english. I wont say more because I am sure you can all guess how it goes - suffice to say everytime the tv goes on or he reads a paper the rages strike up again - many times per day now.
Saturday night they were watching tv when they smelt a strange smell and there turned out to be a fire in the the house in the cellar ceiling which caused the fusing of electrics / fire service etc. Of course this sent him into an absolute rage as he could not watch tv etc and his routine is disrupted. My poor mum now has to have people round to asses damage but she is getting worried about doing so as she knows he will be rude to them. He isa big strong man - only 67 so she cannot shut him away or try to move him. He is still able to cycle his bike to the village each day to get a paper but cannot remember to wash, bath etc and has very little interaction apart from the tv where he loves football & racing.
Apart from diagnosis we have not really sought much support as we have felt able to manage as a family - but I know my mum is getting to breaking point.
Can someone tell us where we start - who can we ask for help? what could be done? The angry outbursts are my worry. He takes no medication - he wont take any thing at all - no matter who tried he totally refuses. He will never see a doctor - he needs glasses but refuses to get his eyes tested telling us we are talking rubbish. Also he has taken to eating constantly too & mum is hiding food in an effort to stop this.
any advice or ideas would be welcome as to how I can help her going forward.
Thankyou for listening
Nikki
My name is Nikki & I live in France. My father, who lives in the uk with my mother & sister was diagnosed about 7 years ago with alzheimers. Up until now we have really not had any issues but during the last few months we have seen a marked decline, which probably is expected.
Its difficult for me to support my family as I live abroad and I spend all my time looking after my three young children, one of whom has autism. Therefore its hard for me to get to travel very often as my son is very dependant.
My mother rang me yesterday to tell me that my father has become very aggressive with violent outbursts of temper over the last week or so. This is to the point he is very rude to her and I can understand the hurt it causes. The other problem is that if anyone now comes to the house( window cleaner, plumber etc) he has started being rude and shouting at them too & ordering them off his property etc etc. The rages have compounded over the last 5 days as he has decided ( being a football fanatic all his life) that the new england manager is unsuitable because he is not english. I wont say more because I am sure you can all guess how it goes - suffice to say everytime the tv goes on or he reads a paper the rages strike up again - many times per day now.
Saturday night they were watching tv when they smelt a strange smell and there turned out to be a fire in the the house in the cellar ceiling which caused the fusing of electrics / fire service etc. Of course this sent him into an absolute rage as he could not watch tv etc and his routine is disrupted. My poor mum now has to have people round to asses damage but she is getting worried about doing so as she knows he will be rude to them. He isa big strong man - only 67 so she cannot shut him away or try to move him. He is still able to cycle his bike to the village each day to get a paper but cannot remember to wash, bath etc and has very little interaction apart from the tv where he loves football & racing.
Apart from diagnosis we have not really sought much support as we have felt able to manage as a family - but I know my mum is getting to breaking point.
Can someone tell us where we start - who can we ask for help? what could be done? The angry outbursts are my worry. He takes no medication - he wont take any thing at all - no matter who tried he totally refuses. He will never see a doctor - he needs glasses but refuses to get his eyes tested telling us we are talking rubbish. Also he has taken to eating constantly too & mum is hiding food in an effort to stop this.
any advice or ideas would be welcome as to how I can help her going forward.
Thankyou for listening
Nikki