Hi all, here goes... my grandmother of 89 was diagnosed with vascular dementia in August 2015 although I would say it started around two years previous. It took a long time to get any help! She lives with my grandfather her husband of 68 years who is 94. Unfortunately my father passed away & there are no other family members so it's just down to me & grandad. They are both physically able within reason & still go out shopping etc. Since Christmas things have gone rapidly downhill. The hallucinations & dilutions have really ramped up & so has the nastiness! I have been reading some other posts on here about the crazy things that other people's relatives are experiencing & although it's so sad it's given me comfort that I'm not alone. I've been trying to get a urine sample from her for two weeks & finally managed to get her to the docs today. Still no sample but he's given her ab's just incase of a uti. We had a whole conversation today about how her mums living with them now & she's not paying her way. Last night she ran to a next door neighbor because a man in her living room was making her frightened & "she's not saying he might rape her"! But she wasn't sure. On Saturday she had her coat on when I arrived ranting that she wanted him (grandad) out of her house. He's just a lodger & she doesn't like him. When I tried to say it's grandad her husband of 68 years she said that he wasn't & that her husband died years ago. She was very aggressive & stating that he'd had another woman in the night before & did she dirty up the sheets! This saga started the morning before & she,d been going at him relentlessly. How my grandad is coping with this 24hrs a day I really don't know. He's already told me he won't have her go into a care home. There is not physical need at present that needs help so we're just struggling through day by day. I dread what's coming each day at the moment. Just hope that maybe she's got a uti which is making it worse & the tablets might help! Here's hoping!