this is the first time i have used this service and am desperate for some reassurance. my dad has been increasingly forgetful for the last 2 years and culminated in virtually unable to function properly when my mum was hospitalised last september. i had to live with dad and encourage/guide him through the activities of daily life. when mum came home he didn't improve too much and i asked him to go to the drs with me re his 'forgetfulness'. as a nurse i was very aware of what this could be and his g.p agreed. last week we went to the pyschiatrist and i was shocked when my dad didn't know the year, how many children he had and had to count his sisters on his fingers. we are now waiting for a brain scan but we are almost certain that its a.d. i'm very upset about this and have been honest with both mum and dad about the future progress of dads life and this was compounded when the dr said he wasn't able to drive anymore. this to a man of 76 who has been driving since 15 and worked on transport all his life! my mum is registered disabled due to severe arthritis and they live 1 hours drive away from me. we have discussed them moving to be near me and they are happy with that but my 3 brothers are not happy. 2 of them live 1 hour away also but 1 lives in town. my problem is that mum wants to be near me as i will be the primary carer when dad progresses and my brothers think i'm pushing things too fast. am i right to move them both now whilst dad can resettle and help mum to settle? i think to wait until dad gets worse will make hime even more disorientated and cinfused then. any advice on how i can communicate with my brothers better? how do i come to terms with this when helping everyone else deal with this? will my dad become physically aggressive towards my mum, as he was when they were younger? help and advice appreciated and desperately needed!!