My father-in-law has two sons. He moved into a care home on Saturday and today I went to see him. A member of staff went up to tell him his daughter in law had arrived. He came down looking puzzled saying, 'Hello. Why did they tell me my daughter in law was here.' I said, 'Well, what relation am I to you.' And he replied, 'You're my daughter.' I didn't know whether to be touched that he used a word which meant he regarded me as someone who was close to him. Or sad because he's losing so much. I just said, 'Oh well, you're the nearest thing to a father I have since my own father died.'