We replaced the last lot of carers as we lost confidence in them and the new ones, after a good start, are now starting to seem not much better.
They are supposed to go in each evening around 6ish to her her dinner and make sure she takes her meds but they keep turning up about five and haven't given her a meal this week , mum says she is not hungry or has already eaten - biscuits usually! Also, they go in one morning a week to make sure she showers and washes her hair. She is now refusing this, saying that she had a bath the day before. Don't they realise she has dementia!
I have spoken to the agency and complained. I asked the agency to tell the carers to call or my sister or brother if she is not cooperating but nobody has rung us so far.
Social services don't want to know and her GP is next to useless - in fact, I don't think she has seen her GP in over a year. She sees a consultant every 6 months, he does the mental test thing, tells us she's dropped a point and recommends she stays on the aricept, as although he doesn't know if it is helping it might be! No advise or pointing us in a direction for help etc. I honestly think I could do a better job!
I'm considering cancelling the carers and seeing how she copes without them. She takes her meds (aricept and a statin) so unregularly that I don't think it would make much difference if she came off them.
She doesn't want to go into a home and I don't blame her but I really don't know what to do or where to go next...... She is so fit and active, phsyically and looks well and covers up her memory loss that I sometimes feel like her dementia is not taken seriously. She is usually happy in herself as long as you don't challenge her about her memory or discuss money!
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They are supposed to go in each evening around 6ish to her her dinner and make sure she takes her meds but they keep turning up about five and haven't given her a meal this week , mum says she is not hungry or has already eaten - biscuits usually! Also, they go in one morning a week to make sure she showers and washes her hair. She is now refusing this, saying that she had a bath the day before. Don't they realise she has dementia!
I have spoken to the agency and complained. I asked the agency to tell the carers to call or my sister or brother if she is not cooperating but nobody has rung us so far.
Social services don't want to know and her GP is next to useless - in fact, I don't think she has seen her GP in over a year. She sees a consultant every 6 months, he does the mental test thing, tells us she's dropped a point and recommends she stays on the aricept, as although he doesn't know if it is helping it might be! No advise or pointing us in a direction for help etc. I honestly think I could do a better job!
I'm considering cancelling the carers and seeing how she copes without them. She takes her meds (aricept and a statin) so unregularly that I don't think it would make much difference if she came off them.
She doesn't want to go into a home and I don't blame her but I really don't know what to do or where to go next...... She is so fit and active, phsyically and looks well and covers up her memory loss that I sometimes feel like her dementia is not taken seriously. She is usually happy in herself as long as you don't challenge her about her memory or discuss money!
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