I thought I'd better start a new thread, the old one about John's infection seems aeons ago! He seems to have settled into the NH well, and is improving every day. He's almost back to full mobility, though a bit wobbly, and is sitting up to table eating with knife and fork. He's totally incontinent still, but they asked me yesterday to bring in underpants, so may be going to work on that. I went in this morning (to take the pants) and John was sitting having breakfast. He had juice, porridge, bacon and eggs, and two jam sandwiches! I had a word with the charge nurse, and said I was very unsure if I'd made the right decision, I thought I could manage him at home. He said no, John's still very difficult to deal with, and will only do what he wants to do -- mostly eat and sleep! I had a telephone interview with the local paper at lunch time about the Nice guidelines, and they wanted a photo to go with it. I rang the NH, and they had John all spruced up ready whan I went in. Unfortunately, he was a bit stroppy at having to sit still, but we managed to get a few. Then he went in to an art class and I came home. I had a word with the activities co-ordinator, and she's going to try to get John colouring again. She's already had him out for walks. She's going to work with him mainly one to one, because of his language problems. All in all, I'm delighted with the NH. But I still come home and cry. I can't get over the feeling that I've let him down.