this post is about my nan and my mum, we have been dealing with my nan and her dementia for a few years now and im worried about my mum, after a long battle with the hospital and doctors and social services who didnt want to know or sim to care if im honest we have got my nan in to a care home which was so upsetting for us all but really took its toll on my mum , my nan went down hill very fast when she moved in lost a lot weight, started wetting herself and so on and is now just a shell of the woman that i have the most wonderful memorys off, she sits in a chair all the time and sims to be losing the will to go on , she no longer knows who we are and doesnt talk its "jibberish" at best she got very ill at christmas to the point where we all said our goodbyes but it turned out she wasnt quite ready to leave us all but my mum has been my worry since she took the whole thing very badly she admitted to me that a small part of her wished she had of gone and she is so guilty for thinking that , my mum is a only child and we lost my grandfather when i was quite young so my nan is the all my mum has left, she often says she dosent know if she did the right thing putting her in the home and she let her down by not being able to look after her , but my nan at christmas made us see we are very much on borrowed time , i just think it is gonna hit my mum very hard , we have had little help over the years no-one has every really spoken to my mum about anything,she is dealing with it all at the moment by not stopping, she is sleeping less and less , and i worry about her and how is going to deal with it, she will fuss over me and husband with our children , my brother is still at home and will run around after him and she is also my dads full time carer who is dealing with a mental illness himself and she works full time i see as she is trying to run away from it all if she dont stop she wont have to think about it , we have some issues over the level of care my nan is getting and when we speak to the home about it we get brushed off and social services just pass us back over to the home again , which i think is adding to my mums worries also,i want to help my mum and try and take some more of the load off her , but have no idea what or where to start
i also want to know that what time my nan has left is comfortable and that she getting the right level of care
im sorry if i have gone on here and dont make much sense i have so many thought and worries and questions , any advise we would be grateful for
i also want to know that what time my nan has left is comfortable and that she getting the right level of care
im sorry if i have gone on here and dont make much sense i have so many thought and worries and questions , any advise we would be grateful for