Hi ,
it's my nan who has senial dementia she is 80 and has had dementia a while but it was accellerated by her having an impacted bowel a year ago . Just recently my grandad was in hospital ( he has liver failure and outlook is not great ) , due to lack of support from s.s and being fobbed off ( long story ) we had no choice but to put nan into respite care , she is still there after 5 weeks as we are still awaiting a package of care ! Since being in the home she has gone down hill ( another long story ) . My main question is how do you deal with the nastyness , my nan can be sweet as anything to one person but completely awful to me , she is so hurtfull and I know that it's not her fault but there are times when i think she hides behind the dementia mask . God that sounds awful . Its awful as i know the nan i had has gone and i'm afraid that i will forget that nan and that i will only ever rememeber this nan ! Sorry to rabbit on but i feel so alone with all this , i'm a 28 yr old mum of 4 and have NO experience of this , i'm walking around in the dark getting nowhere quick !
Thanks for reading xxx
it's my nan who has senial dementia she is 80 and has had dementia a while but it was accellerated by her having an impacted bowel a year ago . Just recently my grandad was in hospital ( he has liver failure and outlook is not great ) , due to lack of support from s.s and being fobbed off ( long story ) we had no choice but to put nan into respite care , she is still there after 5 weeks as we are still awaiting a package of care ! Since being in the home she has gone down hill ( another long story ) . My main question is how do you deal with the nastyness , my nan can be sweet as anything to one person but completely awful to me , she is so hurtfull and I know that it's not her fault but there are times when i think she hides behind the dementia mask . God that sounds awful . Its awful as i know the nan i had has gone and i'm afraid that i will forget that nan and that i will only ever rememeber this nan ! Sorry to rabbit on but i feel so alone with all this , i'm a 28 yr old mum of 4 and have NO experience of this , i'm walking around in the dark getting nowhere quick !
Thanks for reading xxx