I can't say that I'm anxious, concerned, sad, happy or even surprised ... yet thought this was worth sharing....
Mum has suddenly told us about a significant 'episode' in her young life which she never has before ... I've heard all the angst about being evacuated, about her dad leaving, growing up in the Depression, etc etc etc ... this is around being 'sent from home' for convalesence ... but they seem to be 'nice' memories .... of being by the coast, of meeting new friends in similar circumstances.... the likes of which she hasn't shared before.... of returning home to a wonderful welcome for her own mother....
My mother has been a very bitter person about her own past - I keep trying to see the 'pattern' which many describe here about dementia 'magnifying' traits - my mother is just not fitting that pattern..... she seems to be mellowing????!!!
(Not that I'm complaining!)
I am puzzled too that when I 'hear' so many people here anxious about depression (for themselves and their loved ones), my mum - who I would have always described as 'anxious and depressed' is becoming less so.... she seems to have completely forgotten my dad ... but is 'obsesssed' about current/recent events amongst neighbours... this doesn't seem to fit with much of the 'short-term' / 'long-term' memory stuff....
Maybe there is a God, or whoever, whatever,who tells dementia to strike out the bad bits first????
Oh, well, I should just be glad she seems happy (or at least settled).... just finding it all a bit odd........
Just thoughts, love, Karen (TF), x
Mum has suddenly told us about a significant 'episode' in her young life which she never has before ... I've heard all the angst about being evacuated, about her dad leaving, growing up in the Depression, etc etc etc ... this is around being 'sent from home' for convalesence ... but they seem to be 'nice' memories .... of being by the coast, of meeting new friends in similar circumstances.... the likes of which she hasn't shared before.... of returning home to a wonderful welcome for her own mother....
My mother has been a very bitter person about her own past - I keep trying to see the 'pattern' which many describe here about dementia 'magnifying' traits - my mother is just not fitting that pattern..... she seems to be mellowing????!!!
(Not that I'm complaining!)
I am puzzled too that when I 'hear' so many people here anxious about depression (for themselves and their loved ones), my mum - who I would have always described as 'anxious and depressed' is becoming less so.... she seems to have completely forgotten my dad ... but is 'obsesssed' about current/recent events amongst neighbours... this doesn't seem to fit with much of the 'short-term' / 'long-term' memory stuff....
Maybe there is a God, or whoever, whatever,who tells dementia to strike out the bad bits first????
Oh, well, I should just be glad she seems happy (or at least settled).... just finding it all a bit odd........
Just thoughts, love, Karen (TF), x