Hi I don't know where to start so here goes I will try.
I have watched my stepmum loss her memory for the last 2+ years, my dad has cared for her but will falling heath he has fianaly said he needs help, he went to the doc's that said they couldn't help him!!! I was so mad I got in touch with socail and now we have a very good sw and I have become her carer for 21 hours a week.
The biggest problem I have is that she will not leave my dads side but he is in desprate need for respite, she wets and messes the bad every night and doesn't know whats happening part of the time she will start to do something then forget whats she is doing so my dad has to finish it. She likes to go shopping every day as its what she has done for years but my dads legs are poor and he struggles so it has been sugested that I take her as she is not safe on her own but she will not let me we have to be careful or she storms off on her own, so my dad back's down and goes I have tried to tell him not to.
Last friday it was awful I spent my time trying to carm her down as she was mad that I was there again and was taking it out on my dad who was not well, she uses anger all the time to be in control. I don't know what too do I have cried all weekend. would it be a good Idea for me to raise my voice to get control of her, I am desprate for help, sorry for the long thread please any advise welcome
I have watched my stepmum loss her memory for the last 2+ years, my dad has cared for her but will falling heath he has fianaly said he needs help, he went to the doc's that said they couldn't help him!!! I was so mad I got in touch with socail and now we have a very good sw and I have become her carer for 21 hours a week.
The biggest problem I have is that she will not leave my dads side but he is in desprate need for respite, she wets and messes the bad every night and doesn't know whats happening part of the time she will start to do something then forget whats she is doing so my dad has to finish it. She likes to go shopping every day as its what she has done for years but my dads legs are poor and he struggles so it has been sugested that I take her as she is not safe on her own but she will not let me we have to be careful or she storms off on her own, so my dad back's down and goes I have tried to tell him not to.
Last friday it was awful I spent my time trying to carm her down as she was mad that I was there again and was taking it out on my dad who was not well, she uses anger all the time to be in control. I don't know what too do I have cried all weekend. would it be a good Idea for me to raise my voice to get control of her, I am desprate for help, sorry for the long thread please any advise welcome