My Dad is 81 later this year and has recently been diagnosed with dementia. He had been covering up for around 2 years before we realised the extent of his difficulties and the strain it was becoming on Mum. Mum and Dad have been living nearer to me for the last 8 months. He recently walked 12 miles trying to get home (30 miles away) along a busy motorway. (Returned home by the Police). I've managed to deal with most things, strange conversations, calming down Mum when he has locked all the doors on her, and tring to keep him occupied most of the day. Today was different and I've just experienced my first attack of fear. I work full time but have the half term holiday, so today I took Dad out, giving mum some respite. We went shopping and had a meal out, all things that he liked to do before dementia. I left them to have their tea together and called back later to find him very agitated, wanting to take further tablets (lorazapan) as he couldn't remember taking one, and then pretending to be drunk, eventually getting him in his pyjamas, he demanded more tablets, he seemed to find it all very amusing. He also dressed the pyjama case cat up in plastic gloves, mum sometimes wears these gloves if her hands crack open. I do have carers visiting at every meal time and Dad goes out twice a week to a care home. We also have a lady from a local charity help him once a week in the garden. I have an appointment with my care manager to try to get occassional respite care. Can anyone give me some guidance please?