hi
my gran had a major stroke at the end of july and was in hopital for 2 1/2 months ...she was didcarged home at begining of october......im her main carer tho we do have people come in twice i day to help out with dressing and washing ...everything was going so well till last thursday her sister and neice took her out for the day and my gran refused to come home and started making alligations so they called social services ......anyway social services took her to a care home thursday night and she been there ever since...they said they had put her in a place of safty ......yet within the 1st 2 hours she had a fall shes bruised all down the side of her body and her face is a mess ...i wast alowed to see her till tuesday .....i spoke to the social worker and she told me my gran was fine.....she didnt even mention the fall .......so when i went into see her tuesday i was so shoked at the state she was in ....she had dried food stains all down the front of her jumper and trousers ........she needs to be feed and assitsed to drink as she dosent know when she hungry and thirsty yet from what i witnessed so far they are leaving her to her own devices .......she was happy here but ive not seen her smile once since she been in that place shes depressed ......i was visiting yesterday had they had underessed her at 10 to 6 ready for bed ....she has no dignity in that place .......she could talk reasonable well her but her speach has gone right down hill .............the whole family have said shed be better off back home with me but social services are not listening .......when i go to visit her she keeps saying not here not here ....i asked her if she ment she didnt what to stay there and she said a definate yes........we have a meeting planned in the middle of january to decide on whats going to happen .......the social worker has told her neice that she would only be allowed home under certain conditions but the social worker wont tell me what those conditions are ...... my gran has no capacity to make her own decisions so when i asked the social worker what would happen she said it would be a family decision but im not sure they are going to listen to us ......can they make us leave her in there .....im worried sick right now as i now my gran isnt being cared for as she should but when i raised my concerns with the social worker she said she was happy with the level of care my gran was reciving.......well the whole family isnt but no ones listening to us.....i just gont know what to do
my gran had a major stroke at the end of july and was in hopital for 2 1/2 months ...she was didcarged home at begining of october......im her main carer tho we do have people come in twice i day to help out with dressing and washing ...everything was going so well till last thursday her sister and neice took her out for the day and my gran refused to come home and started making alligations so they called social services ......anyway social services took her to a care home thursday night and she been there ever since...they said they had put her in a place of safty ......yet within the 1st 2 hours she had a fall shes bruised all down the side of her body and her face is a mess ...i wast alowed to see her till tuesday .....i spoke to the social worker and she told me my gran was fine.....she didnt even mention the fall .......so when i went into see her tuesday i was so shoked at the state she was in ....she had dried food stains all down the front of her jumper and trousers ........she needs to be feed and assitsed to drink as she dosent know when she hungry and thirsty yet from what i witnessed so far they are leaving her to her own devices .......she was happy here but ive not seen her smile once since she been in that place shes depressed ......i was visiting yesterday had they had underessed her at 10 to 6 ready for bed ....she has no dignity in that place .......she could talk reasonable well her but her speach has gone right down hill .............the whole family have said shed be better off back home with me but social services are not listening .......when i go to visit her she keeps saying not here not here ....i asked her if she ment she didnt what to stay there and she said a definate yes........we have a meeting planned in the middle of january to decide on whats going to happen .......the social worker has told her neice that she would only be allowed home under certain conditions but the social worker wont tell me what those conditions are ...... my gran has no capacity to make her own decisions so when i asked the social worker what would happen she said it would be a family decision but im not sure they are going to listen to us ......can they make us leave her in there .....im worried sick right now as i now my gran isnt being cared for as she should but when i raised my concerns with the social worker she said she was happy with the level of care my gran was reciving.......well the whole family isnt but no ones listening to us.....i just gont know what to do