Is anyone else with a husband in a CH,.. nervous about re-starting visiting? I am. At the start of lock-down, along with the CH, there were concerns as to how my husband would react. He's surprised us all as he's been very understanding. Before lock_-down
I visited every other day. He would be constantly asking when I was next due coming in referring to a diary in which I had written the week's visits. During lock down he hasn't asked ,according to the staff whom I speak to a couple of times a week. When I phone to speak to him he hasn't mentioned it to me, until this week, when he asked me when was I coming home !! I'm thinking about how to go about visiting . Do I go back to the old routine or do I hold back , as he seems to be happy in his new one? In his dementia bubble he doesn't much concept of time so I don't think he realises how long it's been. To be very honest, I've enjoyed having the freedom to spend time in the garden ( I am working 3 days a week) and not having to work around visiting. Friends tell me to leave things as they are, but they don't have partners with dementia. I respect their views but it's far easier said than done. The guilt monkey just won't get off my shoulder. I know I will need to talk to the Care Home staff , but even they , I don't think, can understand as much as someone who is experiencing a husband whom they love very much, in these circumstances . Am I alone in thinking this way?
I visited every other day. He would be constantly asking when I was next due coming in referring to a diary in which I had written the week's visits. During lock down he hasn't asked ,according to the staff whom I speak to a couple of times a week. When I phone to speak to him he hasn't mentioned it to me, until this week, when he asked me when was I coming home !! I'm thinking about how to go about visiting . Do I go back to the old routine or do I hold back , as he seems to be happy in his new one? In his dementia bubble he doesn't much concept of time so I don't think he realises how long it's been. To be very honest, I've enjoyed having the freedom to spend time in the garden ( I am working 3 days a week) and not having to work around visiting. Friends tell me to leave things as they are, but they don't have partners with dementia. I respect their views but it's far easier said than done. The guilt monkey just won't get off my shoulder. I know I will need to talk to the Care Home staff , but even they , I don't think, can understand as much as someone who is experiencing a husband whom they love very much, in these circumstances . Am I alone in thinking this way?