I never have time or the space to get in touch, but feel desperate this evening. After several 'good' weeks of arriving home fine after an hour at the pub in the evening, my husband is now obviously drinking alcohol again, albeit a small amount and caims he hasn't had more than a half of shandy, but enough to affect him as though he's had five pints! It's a miracle that he has made it home without a fall recently. He is incoherent, argumentative, has no co-ordination, can barely stand and is sometimes doubly incontinent. In the morning he will be ok, and of course have no recollection of the previous evening. The staff at the pub do their best but are not always the same people and it isn't their responsibility. I spend every evening worrying. I used to text or phone him, but he can no longer manage his phone. Sometimes I walk up to meet him but I still work part time and am too exhausted to spend every evening in the pub. I don't expect a solution, just need to offload. What does anyone else do in this situation, do we just wait for this particular phase to pass? I dread this every day.