Soc worker visit to our home MIL who is 90 has bedroom in our frontroom. POA only for finances as when moved in with us last Nov thought too traumatic to do health and care at the time. Diagnosed with Alzheimer's in March,hearing loss, macular degeneration walks with a stick okay continence, SoC worker decided she has mental capacity even though MIL said she didn't know she was coming or what for even though we had told her several times_so can make own decisions MIl told her this is her home and she doesn't want to consider CH , OH sister was having her for visits which was agreed when she moved in now says too stressful-. Soc worker heavily implied that if MILwanted to stay here then that is what will happen, regardless of her not being safe when we are at work, unable to use the phone, previously pull alarm out of the wall as noise annoyed her when she activated it , hear anyone enter t he house,lock the door,cook , boil the kettle safely or us being able to got out as a family with our teenage daughters for any reasonable length of time . Soc worker did do a carers assessment , though I realise that MIL needs to be happy with move etc. our needs are being ignored.
Have mentioned respite but doubt she'll go -MIL cross that daughter was out when we phoned her as she wanted to complain about us having assessment done, little does she realise daughter very much in favour and doesn't want to have MIL stay even for a short visit!
Feel railroaded by husband and his family into being carer in the first place now offering no help, if I knew it would be so hard and no likelyhood of ending care I would have fervently resisted, feel like our needs don't count . Hard luck if I want to see or have my own mum, who lives 200 miles away visit.
Sorry for the rant but very frustrated:
Have mentioned respite but doubt she'll go -MIL cross that daughter was out when we phoned her as she wanted to complain about us having assessment done, little does she realise daughter very much in favour and doesn't want to have MIL stay even for a short visit!
Feel railroaded by husband and his family into being carer in the first place now offering no help, if I knew it would be so hard and no likelyhood of ending care I would have fervently resisted, feel like our needs don't count . Hard luck if I want to see or have my own mum, who lives 200 miles away visit.
Sorry for the rant but very frustrated: