What do people think of a social worker asking for an advocate and private care provider being present at a needs assessment? Is this normal? See below for details (apologies, I do go on a bit) In a fit of pique with my mother's erstwhile social worker, who contacted me before Christmas to say she 'wanted me off her books' and that my carer's allowance was being withdrawn because I was using it to pay for my mother's carers, I wrote a snotty email to her saying: fine, withdraw the allowance, Ma will have to pay for the carers herself, but you, social services, need to assess both me as carer and Ma, as cared for person as is your obligation under the care act. She's now trying to arrange it but in a very back to front way. Last summer she told me my mother needed an advocate although she never told me why or what the advocate should do. My mum has met the advocate once and it was the advocate who contacted me this week to say that the social worker had asked her to attend an needs assessment with my mum. I have asked the social worker on three separate occasions why she feels the advocate needs to take part in the needs assessment and have received no answer. The social worker has emailed me this morning to say she also wants the care provider present too. The carers that visit my mum have been arranged by me because social services, over the years, have refused to arrange any care because my mother, like all people with dementia, thinks she has no needs whatsoever. No mention, however, of my needs assessment.