Hi All
I have not been on the boards for some time and hope you kind people may be able to help me.
Mom, Vas.Dementia with evidence Of Alz as well, aged 84 and diagnosed about 2 years ago following stroke.
Had another stroke in Dec 08 after falling out of bed in care home (or perhaps had stroke then fell out) Since then total deteriation in mobility over last few months.
More worringly is how bad she has suddenly got in last week or so. Incontinent of urine.Breathing rapid and shallow, Non-weight bearing when standing, home has to use a hoist. Cant feed herself any longer. Worst thing now is head is totally bent over, almost on her lap and a terrible expression on her face. She actually looks like she could pass away any moment. Vomit and spittle on her clothes as well. Will respond somewhat when spoken too but cant even look at me any longer because of head position.
My question is does she need nursing care? She is left sitting all day like that with her clothes soaked from food spillage and spittle whilst most of the other residents,well all really, go about their business of walking on zimmers and getting around.
I dont know the criteria for one as she has no bed sores yet but is 100% immobile. I hve spoken to my Dad (very selfish man, long story) who wont hear of having her moved as the home is 2 mins walk from their home where he lives alone now.
Although the home is supposed to be geared for dementia patients I feel my Mom is literally sitting there dying. I have seen them feed her once and dont know what would happen if thay are too busy. She is skin and bone like a skeleton.
Could anyone please advise? They are getting home funded at Moment. Should be about 400 pound a week but they are only charging Dad about 35 pound a week which is all she has left of pension once her pocket money allowance has been taken out.
Thanks in advance.
xxx
I have not been on the boards for some time and hope you kind people may be able to help me.
Mom, Vas.Dementia with evidence Of Alz as well, aged 84 and diagnosed about 2 years ago following stroke.
Had another stroke in Dec 08 after falling out of bed in care home (or perhaps had stroke then fell out) Since then total deteriation in mobility over last few months.
More worringly is how bad she has suddenly got in last week or so. Incontinent of urine.Breathing rapid and shallow, Non-weight bearing when standing, home has to use a hoist. Cant feed herself any longer. Worst thing now is head is totally bent over, almost on her lap and a terrible expression on her face. She actually looks like she could pass away any moment. Vomit and spittle on her clothes as well. Will respond somewhat when spoken too but cant even look at me any longer because of head position.
My question is does she need nursing care? She is left sitting all day like that with her clothes soaked from food spillage and spittle whilst most of the other residents,well all really, go about their business of walking on zimmers and getting around.
I dont know the criteria for one as she has no bed sores yet but is 100% immobile. I hve spoken to my Dad (very selfish man, long story) who wont hear of having her moved as the home is 2 mins walk from their home where he lives alone now.
Although the home is supposed to be geared for dementia patients I feel my Mom is literally sitting there dying. I have seen them feed her once and dont know what would happen if thay are too busy. She is skin and bone like a skeleton.
Could anyone please advise? They are getting home funded at Moment. Should be about 400 pound a week but they are only charging Dad about 35 pound a week which is all she has left of pension once her pocket money allowance has been taken out.
Thanks in advance.
xxx
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