1. chrissie121

    chrissie121 Registered User

    Nov 27, 2013
    29
    hi there, its always difficult when siblings are joint POA's but don't agree. Are you joint or independent POA's. If you can act without his imput, then you are independent and can do what is right for your mother. Your mother clearly needs full time care. Firstly you should apply for Disability Living Allowance for your mother, this is to help her at home by providing funds to pay for care. You are that care. Secondly, you can apply for a carers allowance - again you are providing that care. You can then ask SS to help you with daily care as you are coping alone. Thirdly don't feel bad and use your mother's pension to pay for bills and also some private care as well. You can also ask SS to provide respite care for you as you are a lone carer. this would involve a week or two in a care home whilst you get a rest. all of this SS can help you with, they will also appoint a Social worker to help you and ensure that as you are caring for your mother at home and not placing her in a home they will do what they can. ( its cheaper for them for you to have her at home).

    At some point along the line she will need to go into full time care and it may be that your brother believes he can organise private care at his home and avoid the need for full time care, but is this fair on your mother? She would benefit from the care a home can provide, the stimulation and activities that homes provide, the personal and emotional care that comes with it. Financial gains - such as her house - should not be the main factor in considering what is right for her. After all, shouldn't the house she owns now be an asset to her in her old age and help ensure she is looked after in her twilight years.
     

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