Hi all
Having a very difficult time at the moment and need some advice!
Cut a very long story short. Mum was diagnosed in 2013. She is 60 end of this year. Her and her husband (my step dad have been married since 2004 and togeter since 99. Mum was married to my dad from 1974 to 1997.
My dad had an affair with my mums best friend.
They are still together.
My step dad and mum are having a tough time. Every time this friend of my stepdad talk to him mum accusing him of having friends with benefits.
Over christmas just gone mum first accused step dad if having the affair because he was looking at black cars (said friend drives a black car)
I had a chat with mum and reassured her that nothing is going on.
Tonight, they took the dogs for a walk and went to the chip shop. This friend came up to my stepdad and was being *in mums words* the ***** was all over him.
I can tell you all now he is not having an affair with anyone. He loves my mum very very much.
Mum cane running from the shops to our house and told stepdad she was coming to us. So he continued with walking the three dogs.
Mum was ever so confused and upset. Saying that woman is trying to ruin us. He(stepdad) shouldnt even be talking to other women. I calmed her down and we went for a long walk.
I have advised my step dad to go to citzen advice where he can get in contact with the right people who to talk to. They both need counselling i think. Stepdad is in denial and finding it all ever so hard. As we all are.
But how can i keep on telling my mun that he is not having an affair!!!
Poor stepdad. I just dont know what to say. Or what the right words are.
I just talked calmey to her and said this woman is probably very friendly with everyone other friends and num shouldn't worry.
And that my strpdad probably looks suspicious at every black car in feaf of it being her and mum accusing him. If that makes sense.
I just dont know what to do!!!
Worried xxxx thanks in advanced x
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Having a very difficult time at the moment and need some advice!
Cut a very long story short. Mum was diagnosed in 2013. She is 60 end of this year. Her and her husband (my step dad have been married since 2004 and togeter since 99. Mum was married to my dad from 1974 to 1997.
My dad had an affair with my mums best friend.
They are still together.
My step dad and mum are having a tough time. Every time this friend of my stepdad talk to him mum accusing him of having friends with benefits.
Over christmas just gone mum first accused step dad if having the affair because he was looking at black cars (said friend drives a black car)
I had a chat with mum and reassured her that nothing is going on.
Tonight, they took the dogs for a walk and went to the chip shop. This friend came up to my stepdad and was being *in mums words* the ***** was all over him.
I can tell you all now he is not having an affair with anyone. He loves my mum very very much.
Mum cane running from the shops to our house and told stepdad she was coming to us. So he continued with walking the three dogs.
Mum was ever so confused and upset. Saying that woman is trying to ruin us. He(stepdad) shouldnt even be talking to other women. I calmed her down and we went for a long walk.
I have advised my step dad to go to citzen advice where he can get in contact with the right people who to talk to. They both need counselling i think. Stepdad is in denial and finding it all ever so hard. As we all are.
But how can i keep on telling my mun that he is not having an affair!!!
Poor stepdad. I just dont know what to say. Or what the right words are.
I just talked calmey to her and said this woman is probably very friendly with everyone other friends and num shouldn't worry.
And that my strpdad probably looks suspicious at every black car in feaf of it being her and mum accusing him. If that makes sense.
I just dont know what to do!!!
Worried xxxx thanks in advanced x
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. I guess the only comfort for you and your stepdad may be that she is unlikely to remain 'fixed' on this forever. Other things will take its place....