i have a trapped nerve in my back by something and with arthritis as well so also got a chronic pain condition. im on oramorph to take the edge off. my son does a lot of the jobs i cant do or my dil will come over and hoover if im bad. my daughter will do things if shes asked like she does his meds and takes him to the doctor as im basically housebound. i do have a mobility scooter which i go out once a week preferably on my own to have a break. my husband also has COPD so cant do anything much. i have a dustpan and brush with a long handle which helps. i have a light hoover and its anything that is easier for me. i do one job a day and have plenty of sit down days.Unfortunately between the arthritis and hypermobility I have managed to slip a disk and done some damage to my back.
Since then I have become aware of a big change in OH compared to 12 months ago.
This time last year OH had 'his chores/jobs'. He would say that all housework was his job . But he would only actually focus on one or two 'jobs' that he would half do, ( only wash towels ) or didn't do properly (we had to rewash alot of plates ect).
If anyone else tried to do any housework it would turn into arguments, we were taking over his jobs because I wanted to make him go back to work or something similar.
We just about managed to get the basics done without upsetting him too much but I must say most of the housework had taken a backseat, it just wasn't worth it.
Fast forward 12 months although he will still say that housework is his job to anyone that asks. he no longer does anything, doesn't comment when someone else does it,
I have been doing the clothes washing recently, believe it or not this is how I slipped my disc... hanging washing out lol. I have had to get the kids helping out with the must do jobs, which 12 months ago led to lots of confrontations, but OH hasn't said a word about kids doing housework.
So this last week the kids have been doing housework. ( 1 little job at a time, so we can judge his reaction ). He has had no interest at all.
Our eldest tackled a big job this morning... The bathroom, it has been a good 12 months since it has had a thorough clean, normally just a quick wipe over, it was amazing to see it looking so good.
OH didn't bat an eyelid.