Another day of the carer coming in to give Mum a shower and Mum refusing and being really rude. This only happens once a week. I take care of her the rest of the time. She gets so stubborn. Today the carer was a new one and she was lovely. She spent some time talking to Mum trying to get to know her a little bit. Mum just answered her questions with "That's none of your business." She said she couldn't remember how many brothers or sisters she had or how many children. Just being difficult. She hasn't had a shower now for 4 weeks. Washing her doesn't seem to take the smell of urine away and she constantly complains that she is cold while I am doing it. I put the heating right up. It's like a sauna in here.
I have had to accept that she is now incontinent. I have started using proper Tena incontinence pants which are very good. The trouble is that they are so good that Mum insists she is not wet. She refuses to let me check saying that she would know. She has had the same Tena pants on since yesterday morning!!!! She is already getting sore - last time I was allowed to check. I have told her she will get worse and she just says that's up to her. I really don't know what to do. I can't believe something that should be so simple is making me so upset.
I have had to accept that she is now incontinent. I have started using proper Tena incontinence pants which are very good. The trouble is that they are so good that Mum insists she is not wet. She refuses to let me check saying that she would know. She has had the same Tena pants on since yesterday morning!!!! She is already getting sore - last time I was allowed to check. I have told her she will get worse and she just says that's up to her. I really don't know what to do. I can't believe something that should be so simple is making me so upset.