Its a long story which will try to be brief
I recently lost my mum to cancer four weeks ago and she died intestate so everything went to dad. dad was admitted to hospital following a fall 5 weeks ago( he has dementia) and we had to place him in a nursing home which he went to yesterday.
My older sister during the last 6 weeks has become more and more difficult to deal with she seems to think that even though there is not a power of attorney or deputy in place for dad because she has been named next of kin on the hospital forms etc she can do what she likes with dads money. She refuses to inform my younger sister and myself on any information regarding dads ( and mum ) care plans etc. She tried to get me barred from mum funeral all because I dared to ask her for a copy of all paperwork regarding dads details as I suggested we needed to discuss what to do next . ( she has the bank cards and knows the pin number ) she will not let us have the keys to my parents flat to pack up and it has come to the point where she refuses to talk to me at all and if she has to she becomes very argumentive and agressive towards me and my other sister,
She doesnt work and seems to have a lot of money lately, she has admitted she has sold some of dads furniture but refuses to comfirm what she has done with the money.
Dad had some money in his wallet which he had all the time at the hospital ( older sister has not visited him for four weeks,) the money was there on the Monday following a visit from older sister on the Wed the money was missing, she denied taking it and my younger sister and I had to report the loss to the nursing staff.
My younger sister and I have real concerns regarding my older sister actions and think she is using the bank account for her own use.
I have spoken to dads sw regarding my fears and she promptly discussed it with my older sister which naturally resulted in a huge row. I am supposed to be talking to the finace department on Friday who I want to act under the vunerable adults act. My point is I dont trust that they will deal with it confidentaly like the sw didnt how do we deal with them? I want dads money protected there is no power of attornery or deputyship for dad money and have no idea what we are supposed to do can we sell dads stuff on his behalf or do we store it until paperwork is registered by the way I feel we should all be named or it should be a court appointed person. so confused have no idea how to deal with this can anyone advise.
I recently lost my mum to cancer four weeks ago and she died intestate so everything went to dad. dad was admitted to hospital following a fall 5 weeks ago( he has dementia) and we had to place him in a nursing home which he went to yesterday.
My older sister during the last 6 weeks has become more and more difficult to deal with she seems to think that even though there is not a power of attorney or deputy in place for dad because she has been named next of kin on the hospital forms etc she can do what she likes with dads money. She refuses to inform my younger sister and myself on any information regarding dads ( and mum ) care plans etc. She tried to get me barred from mum funeral all because I dared to ask her for a copy of all paperwork regarding dads details as I suggested we needed to discuss what to do next . ( she has the bank cards and knows the pin number ) she will not let us have the keys to my parents flat to pack up and it has come to the point where she refuses to talk to me at all and if she has to she becomes very argumentive and agressive towards me and my other sister,
She doesnt work and seems to have a lot of money lately, she has admitted she has sold some of dads furniture but refuses to comfirm what she has done with the money.
Dad had some money in his wallet which he had all the time at the hospital ( older sister has not visited him for four weeks,) the money was there on the Monday following a visit from older sister on the Wed the money was missing, she denied taking it and my younger sister and I had to report the loss to the nursing staff.
My younger sister and I have real concerns regarding my older sister actions and think she is using the bank account for her own use.
I have spoken to dads sw regarding my fears and she promptly discussed it with my older sister which naturally resulted in a huge row. I am supposed to be talking to the finace department on Friday who I want to act under the vunerable adults act. My point is I dont trust that they will deal with it confidentaly like the sw didnt how do we deal with them? I want dads money protected there is no power of attornery or deputyship for dad money and have no idea what we are supposed to do can we sell dads stuff on his behalf or do we store it until paperwork is registered by the way I feel we should all be named or it should be a court appointed person. so confused have no idea how to deal with this can anyone advise.