Hello everyone After all that turmoil, mum seems to have settled in at this home in India. Her personal caregiver is excellent and I am very grateful. Mum has 24-hour care and company, security, good food, familiar environment and everything one might want at this age and stage, except my physical presence. I call everyweek from here in Germany and speak to nurse and mum who sometimes asks 'When will you come?' and I say 'tomorrow'. I plan to visit again in November for about 3 months but I am beginning to get worried because I cannot say if mum will revert to her old aggressive difficult behaviour once she sees me. I can't imagine starting from scratch all over again considering that I had a nervous and physical breakdown last year (as I reported) and have just managed to get my life back on track. What would others do? Any advice would be gratefully received.